Necessary formalities to get married in Finland?

by **Sangdth** » Sat Oct 18, 2008 4:34 am

Hi everybody,
I have some questions, but i can't find out it, sorry about my English skill.

I have a girlfriend in Finland, she asked me to get married with her. But I dont know how I can comply all the necessary for formalities?

But my father is not agree with us, he dont want I get married with her. And she not enough money to come back Vietnam, get married with me, and again, I and her flight to Finland, it take too much cost. I just want to go to Finland, and living at there with her.

I had been own the passport, and I'm a Vietnamese, 24 years old.

P/S: If this question is not match with this forum, please send me some suggestions or some links to learn about it.

Thanks a lot. Again, sorry about my English skill.

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by **onkko** » Sat Oct 18, 2008 1:05 pm

Well if she doesnt have money to flight in vietnam then how she haves money to support you?
Just stay there and forget about coming in finland.

by **rinso** » Sat Oct 18, 2008 1:30 pm

Sangdth wrote:I have a girlfriend in Finland, she asked me to get married with her. But I dont know how I can comply all the necessary for formalities?

Let your girlfriend arrange the paperwork in Finland. It should be easy for her to find out.
You probably need also some papers (prove of who you are and that you are not married at the moment).

But my father is not agree with us, he dont want I get married with her.

If you're 24 you don't need his permission.

And she not enough money to come back Vietnam, get married with me, and again, I and her flight to Finland, it take too much cost. I just want to go to Finland, and living at there with her.

onkko wrote:Well if she doesnt have money to flight in vietnam then how she haves money to support you?

This is the residence permit problem. If you're Vietnamese, you need a residence permit to stay in Finland. Since it seems that you will apply for a RP based on family ties, you need to prove that your relationship is real (living together for more than 2 years) and that you can support yourself. If money is already a problem for one person, it would reduce your chances for a RP considerably.

by **Sangdth** » Sat Oct 18, 2008 2:55 pm

Thank rinso and onkko so much!

Money is not a problem. All things I need is the FORMALY, the papersheet, the way to do something, etc... I'm a new guy in this case.

I said that my girlfriend is not enough money to flight from Fin to Vietnam, then from Vietnam to Fin, then from Fin to Vietnam .... many times in just a short time. She come back to Vietnam with me 3 times, in 3 years. She can earn 2000 euro per month. So that I dont care about money.

If everything is ok, i can own 1000 - 2000 US dollar from my mother.

by **Rabs** » Sat Oct 18, 2008 3:10 pm

one more whining foreigner in the making!! :ochesey:

by **onkko** » Sat Oct 18, 2008 3:29 pm

2k/month isnt that much when you have to support useless "husband".
Money is problem, this is not vietnam so prices are bit different.

by **Sangdth** » Sat Oct 18, 2008 3:40 pm

Yes, 2k is not much to support a useless husband! It's right.

But, I'm not a useless person, hihi.

Anyway, thanks for you reply.

by **onkko** » Sat Oct 18, 2008 3:52 pm

Sangdth wrote:Yes, 2k is not much to support a useless husband! It's right.

But, I'm not a useless person, hihi.

Anyway, thanks for you reply.

You are, you wont get job in finland. You have to have something what finnish lack like good electrician/computer knowledge in area what you cant find in finland (thats small area).

You dont even write good english so you dont have a change. With good english and excellent education/work history you have a change. Without you dont have change at all if you dont want to be a cleaner and even that requires more than you can deliver.

You are useless.

by **rinso** » Sat Oct 18, 2008 4:49 pm

Getting a job will be difficult. Without Finnish or niche (= computer) skills, you have a big disadvantage compared with the local population. And you need to have a job waiting for you before you can apply for a RP based on work. So that is not a realistic approach. Getting a RP based on marriage should not be a problem if;
- she is Finnish
- you can prove you have lived together for more than 2 years
.
2k is indeed very little to live on. After the basic costs (housing, food, electricity, ....) there will be hardly anything left for "nice" things. If you cannot find a job, you will be sitting at home, counting cars (or, if she lives in Nowheremäki, counting trees :twisted:

)
And like Rabs says, you'll start whining.

Don't worry about your English. Fins are not perfect either.

onkko wrote:You are, you won't get job in Finland. You have to have something what Finnish lack like good electrician/computer knowledge in area what you can't find in Finland (that's a small area).

You don't even write good English so you don't have a chance. With good English and excellent education/work history you have a chance. Without you don't have chance at all if you don't want to be a cleaner and even that requires more than you can deliver.

You are useless.

by EP » Sat Oct 18, 2008 5:17 pm

Your best chance is getting marries in Vietnam, and after that live there together for two years. And after that come to Finland if you still feel like it.

Vietnam is a rising travel destination for Finns. Depending on her background she could try to get a job with a Finnish travel agency that arranges trips to Vietnam, and then try to get transferred to Vietnam. There are Finnish guides at least in Ho Chi Minh City, Hoi An and Phan Thiet.

by **Sangdth** » Sat Oct 18, 2008 5:51 pm

If you cannot find a job, you will be sitting at home, counting cars (or, if she lives in Nowheremäki, counting trees )

Hihi, she live in Vantaa, near Helsinki, so that i can counting car :lol:

@onkko: if i go to the forest and eat the trees, leaves, or fruits, or mushroom, do I need a computer skill? Or English skill? Hihi :mrgreen:

Just kiddin'

Thank all of you. All of you are nice persons.

A little thing of my life: Dear onkko, in Vietnam, I already own a company, own a car, and a high income, but all thing is not important. All of that, i can made it, and i believe that i can make it again, successfully. You just only understand my meaning even you have a father like mine. But, i always like your reply. It took me the other side of my life if i be a 'useless husband'. Thank you again.

by **tummansininen** » Mon Nov 10, 2008 4:32 pm

Hard work will not negate the fact that you don't speak Finnish.

by **Tiwaz** » Tue Nov 11, 2008 3:33 pm

Sangdth wrote:Thank all of you. All of you are nice persons.

A little thing of my life: Dear onkko, in Vietnam, I already own a company, own a car, and a high income, but all thing is not important. All of that, i can made it, and i believe that i can make it again, successfully. You just only understand my meaning even you have a father like mine. But, i always like your reply. It took me the other side of my life if i be a 'useless husband'. Thank you again.

You mean you have company in Vietnam. Where you speak local language and are familiar with local culture. And high income in country where costs are fraction of Finnish costs.
GDP of Finland is 36k mickeymouses. GDP of Vietnam is 2,6k mickeymouses.

We are speaking of whole different situation. Your monetary fortune will buy fraction of what they would in Vietnam. Your business would die out since there is no large vietnamese population to be your customers and you do not have language or cultural skills to make it big with Finns.

by **pupy** » Mon Nov 17, 2008 3:07 pm

I think it is all depends on his motivation. If he really want to come to Finland and becomes a Finn, he will learn Finnish pretty fast. I know some of my friends who can learn Finnish in 6 months(basic communication only). And after 2 years, they can speak almost like native speakers. In addition, his "wife" is a Finns

.

Back to Sangdth question, you two need a paper from your local province to proof that you are unmarried person. You and your wife need to register at maistraatti (your wife know) and may be at Vietnamese embassy in Finland. Well, I think basically, that is all to register. But you have to be in Finland to do this.

As others said, you two have to live together for at least 2 years then you can come to Finland. So please think yourself about the solution.

Well, wish you good luck on doing your paper work.

by **muamin** » Tue Nov 18, 2008 11:35 pm

i think it dependce on where you are going to get married ,
if you are going to get married in finland then you will need a paper proove that you can get married " capapcity marriage " , and if you are going to get married in your country then you have to go and ask in the place where poeple get married in your country ' maybe family's court " ; ask them that you want to get married with a finnish girl , what papers you need to bring 'your papers and hers?