turbodank23 wrote:(...) But she does not think it is good for me to move in while she is highschool does anyone agree? (...) I am young 20 and so is she, she is 18 CRAZY? YOU TELL ME ????????? =)
I hate to be the guy that bursts the bubble, but what exactly do you want to live from? Especially while she is at highschool, she has no spare money at all to help you, and i doubt her parents will be delighted to finance their daughter´s boyfriend.
I think your main reason to move to finland is because you miss her, not because you want to live with her forever (you are both very young, and you met under special circumstances - at school, no stress about work, money or everyday life-. How many times did you meet her in Finland already (and i dont mean just for a week or two, i mean for a longer period like one or two months during holidays)? Its important to meet someone you love in their surroundings for a longer time. Often people tend to be different abroad or away from their family/friends as they are at home, as they dont have the social pressure abd control they feel they have at home. This often creates impressions on others which dont reflect reality but merely an image one wants to give of himself.
My advice would be to stay where you are for now and first manage to know each other better (one year is nothing). In the meanwhile, you can take more finnish-lessons and find out what you could do in finland to make some money. Look what jobs would be interesting for you and find a job according to that.
Dont just go there, especially not when she said she is not 100% behind you if you move there.