And you idiot think that's it. Great.adnan wrote:Wow. How did you manage to turn the computer on today? Be honest, did someone do that for you?SO WHAT IS THE @#$% DIFFERENCE TO BRITISH? JUST PRETEND IT IS ONE BIG GODDAMN TESCO!
Let me explain what she meant. In urban life, a big issue for people suffering from anxiety is going to the store because they'll have to interact with the cashier. It's very scary that the cashier might say something to them.. "What would I answer back?!"
You see, that's why it's an illness!
tummansininen mentioned to Tesco as an example how you can finish your shopping task without zero human interaction.
Except it is not. You cannot @#$% shop at Tesco and pretend that everything else around you is not a @#$% alien landscape. Which nicely drives up the stress levels which makes the situation worse.
You also conveniently ignored that Tesco is not all of it. He has to do more than go home and then Tesco and then back home. Is he going to have also ability to go to Tesco without human contact to handle his permits? They sell those without need to undergo any bureaucracy? Oh yeah, not! Along with plethora of other issues like paying bills, making contracts etc etc.
Except you have NOT been a Finn who is abroad. I have. Our culture is nothing like yours. Neither do we possess potential "safe havens" where massive amount our cultural, extended or not, background people could be found.Anyway, back to the topic. Once you begin your life in the UK, it's a lot easier to live there than the same in Finland. A lot. By large difference! It's insanely easier to be a foreigner in the UK than a foreigner in Finland. It's especially true where I was, in Scotland. I've been a foreigner in both, so I know.
For most immigrant like you, there are considerable communities of extended cultural "family" around. People from your native land, or in most cases from neighboring ones that have strongly similar culture.
Finns do not. Closes thing to cultural relative we have are Estonians, who in turn are even tinier group of people and thus extremely small community abroad.
Finn going abroad is in most cases 100% alone. Which is no biggie if we are regular guys, but someone with anxiety disorder is going to need familiar anchor to help them keep calm.
Honestly, you people make me sick. You at same breath recommend OP to NOT come to Finland because of her mental conditions worrying for her and then tell her to try to drag her BF to UK without ANY consideration for HIS health.
Let's presume you have your way, she manages to lure him into UK. Fast forward say half a year and he offs himself because alien surroundings without any familiar support nets, alien language and all that causing his AD get worse and worse. You DO realize that AD comes often hand in hand with depression?
Are you then happy?