Going back home to Australia permanently. Need postage info!

[Kutittaa]

Hey guys.

My wife and I have been going through a hard time the last 3 weeks and it just turns out that she's fallen out of love with me and she would rather just be alone (ouch). Can't imagine why /sarcasm
Anyway she's leaving herself with a mountain of bills to pay that she will no longer be able to. Everything is in her name and I am taking the computer which still needs quite a large amount of payments so at least she won't have to worry about that.

Anyway so I-told-you-so's aside could someone please help me out with how I am supposed to get my PC over to Australia?

Apparently it can be sent via 'heavy luggage' or something on a plane? Or should I send it over on a boat or something? Where should I go to ask for a quote? Of course I have the box and stuff to pack it all up in. Basically I just need to take the screen and the tower/box with all the stuff in it. That's it.

I'm struggling to come to terms with this because it's all extremely sudden. I used to think that it was crazy that people would come on the forums here and complain about their wives like they had just woken up one morning and gone berserk and just ordered them out. At least I know I'm not the only one... I honestly feel sorry for anyone who comes over here and literally puts everything they have on the line for a relationship that their wife controls entirely.

I can barely type here my hands are pretty shaken... there goes 18 months of my life and I didn't even get to learn the language... all I have is my phone and the clothes on my back to go home with. My family absolutely insisted that I take the computer with me because it's mine and I deserve it. My wife agreed but I need to know how to send it back with me.. I will be taking a train from Oulu to Helsinki or possibly a plane. I don't know.. but of course I would like to spend as little as possible and speed isn't really a concern. If it takes a month to get to Aust that's ok, as long as it doesn't get lost or anything.

I just need to know what options I have in being able to ship it back to Aust somehow and how much is it going to cost?
Retrospectively it would be nice to be able to walk out of the airport and have it with me.. but I don't know if that is possible..

Thanks a lot... I guess I've had my last laugh in Finland. I won't be back again, this is it for me. I've shovelled so much !"#¤% here I'll never put up with that again.. I wonder if anyone else has left here after just as long a, time with as little as I am going back with.

[Karhunkoski]

I have no advice for your computer, but maybe as a last resort, remove the components to checked-in luggage and stick them into a new case down under.

I honestly feel sorry for anyone who comes over here and literally puts everything they have on the line for a relationship that their wife controls entirely.

And whose fault is that? Why did you let her "control it entirely"???

The next comment isn't a random thought, nor one I agree with 100%, but it does have some basis on many years of friendly discussion with Finnish women: Finnish women have a reputation for being tough and dominating, but they're not some sort of genetic feminists, it's just that historically they *think* that they've been forced to take control when the other option has been a weak-minded, dithering, alcohol-affected male. Of course not all Finnish males are like this, but maybe just enough are to have affected the ladies mindset So anyone who wants to build a successful relationship with a Finnish women should be aware of this fact, and act accordingly. Don't be a pussy, take a 50% stake in the relationship!

[Kutittaa]

I have no advice for your computer, but maybe as a last resort, remove the components to checked-in luggage and stick them into a new case down under.

I honestly feel sorry for anyone who comes over here and literally puts everything they have on the line for a relationship that their wife controls entirely.

And whose fault is that? Why did you let her "control it entirely"???

The next comment isn't a random thought, nor one I agree with 100%, but it does have some basis on many years of friendly discussion with Finnish women: Finnish women have a reputation for being tough and dominating, but they're not some sort of genetic feminists, it's just that historically they *think* that they've been forced to take control when the other option has been a weak-minded, dithering, alcohol-affected male. Of course not all Finnish males are like this, but maybe just enough are to have affected the ladies mindset So anyone who wants to build a successful relationship with a Finnish women should be aware of this fact, and act accordingly. Don't be a pussy, take a 50% stake in the relationship!

How could I not let her control it entirely? It's her country, her language. I couldn't even get a bank account in my name without having lived here long enough and I can't get anything in my name because I have no credit rating, again because I haven't lived here long enough. I'm not rich, well not really. I've always had money, but I've never been able to just simply travel back and forth at my leisure. I did that when I was younger, I thought I found who I wanted to start a family with. But she doesn't want to anymore. Maybe it's hard for you to understand because you are a Finn. But think of it this way. There are many, many people who have come onto these forums who have been or are in the same position as me. As I have been working here I have come to find the females of this place extremely hostile towards men, myself and my friends. At least I can go home and say with absolutely no doubts that I did everything in my power to try and make this relationship the most comfortable and loving possible for my wife and that in the end, even if there was an issue that it wasn't anything that I did. She will have absolutely nothing to complain about to anyone and she agrees so, because I haven't done anything to wrong her.

I leave here with a phone, a computer and a bike. She gets to keep everything else. I've done everything I could, I believed that by letting my wife do what she wanted and not make her feel guilty for anything that she would be happy and have nothing to feel bad about. I've been there for her since day one and all-that-jazz. I won't bore you with the story. In the end, I got the only possible answer because I did everything right. "You're an amazing, beautiful person and I love you but I don't want to be with you anymore".

So that's what you get when you do everything right. I don't want to talk about it anyway please.

I'd just like some information on how to get this computer out of the country and into Australia, without it costing me a fortune.

[interleukin]

That sucks.

When I moved to Sweden, I called the airline and they let me send stuff by cargo (by weight). So probably my stuff got sent in the same plane as normal luggage, but it was much cheaper. I'm sure there are other options, but you could try calling the airlines and see.

But are you sure you want to actually transport the monitor? Don't know what kind of monitor it is, but I'd expect transport of a monitor to be not worth it (cheap to buy a new one, and it would have to get packaged pretty well to not get damaged).

/interleukin

[Kutittaa]

The monitor was 250€ and yes I would like to send it. It shouldn't be a problem. I doubt it would cost more to send it than to buy a new one. Get it? I might have to get her to do that just as soon as I've worked all this out. Is it something that you pay for when you buy the ticket or can you just literally walk into an airport with it and say that I want it to go on a plane and I have the cash to pay for it. I'm probably going to have a ticket bought for me from Australia. My parents will most-likely be buying the ticket rather than spending a couple of days waiting for the funds to transfer and then pay the fee of doing the IMT as well as messing around with exchange rates. So would they have to work it out from their side or...?

This is all so much to take in currently.

[Cory]

Air isn't the only option. If you're not in a hurry to get the computer, surface is probably the cheapest. Pack it up good and find a shipping company. The box will go into a big container and when the container is filled(with goods from other companies and individuals) and ready to be loaded onto the ship, it'll start its voyage.

I divorced in 2006 and had intended to move back to my birth culture. I had 11m3 of stuff that was actually waiting at the harbour in Helsinki before I decided that I didn't want to leave and chose to remain in Finland. The guys at the harbour were a bit puzzled when I phoned them and told them to not pack the stuff in the container afterall. They stored it, instead, for my return back after a month. They had told me it'd take 2-3 weeks before the container would be full enough to ship. The cost of my 11m3 was just under 1000 euro to go all the way by sea to Vancouver.

[Kutittaa]

But that's tons of stuff. All I have are 2 things that I can't reasonably take with me on a plane..

Posti said online it'd be about 150€ I'm wondering if I should go with that...

[Työelämä]

Hey guys.

My wife and I have been going through a hard time the last 3 weeks and it just turns out that she's fallen out of love with me and she would rather just be alone (ouch). Can't imagine why /sarcasm
Anyway she's leaving herself with a mountain of bills to pay that she will no longer be able to. Everything is in her name and I am taking the computer which still needs quite a large amount of payments so at least she won't have to worry about that.

Anyway so I-told-you-so's aside could someone please help me out with how I am supposed to get my PC over to Australia?

Apparently it can be sent via 'heavy luggage' or something on a plane? Or should I send it over on a boat or something? Where should I go to ask for a quote? Of course I have the box and stuff to pack it all up in. Basically I just need to take the screen and the tower/box with all the stuff in it. That's it.

I'm struggling to come to terms with this because it's all extremely sudden. I used to think that it was crazy that people would come on the forums here and complain about their wives like they had just woken up one morning and gone berserk and just ordered them out. At least I know I'm not the only one... I honestly feel sorry for anyone who comes over here and literally puts everything they have on the line for a relationship that their wife controls entirely.

I can barely type here my hands are pretty shaken... there goes 18 months of my life and I didn't even get to learn the language... all I have is my phone and the clothes on my back to go home with. My family absolutely insisted that I take the computer with me because it's mine and I deserve it. My wife agreed but I need to know how to send it back with me.. I will be taking a train from Oulu to Helsinki or possibly a plane. I don't know.. but of course I would like to spend as little as possible and speed isn't really a concern. If it takes a month to get to Aust that's ok, as long as it doesn't get lost or anything.

I just need to know what options I have in being able to ship it back to Aust somehow and how much is it going to cost?
Retrospectively it would be nice to be able to walk out of the airport and have it with me.. but I don't know if that is possible..

Thanks a lot... I guess I've had my last laugh in Finland. I won't be back again, this is it for me. I've shovelled so much !"#¤% here I'll never put up with that again.. I wonder if anyone else has left here after just as long a, time with as little as I am going back with.

"How have the mighty fallen, And the weapons of war perished!"

Just because you've become a young man, now,
There's still some things that you don't understand, now.
Before you ask some girl for her hand, now,
Keep your freedom for as long as you can, now.
My mama told me, "You better shop around".

"Power tends to corrupt, and absolute power corrupts absolutely. Great men are almost always bad men."

But for me i will only miss you in Finland and you are still welcomed to post as many as possible ideas and responses to peoples questions over this Forum.

Wishing you all the best as you sail away to the country in the Southern Hemisphere.

[Cory]

But that's tons of stuff. All I have are 2 things that I can't reasonably take with me on a plane..

Posti said online it'd be about 150€ I'm wondering if I should go with that...

Yeah, well, you asked for info. You can choose what you want to do with the info that you get.

[aguinness]

I was wondering if someone should quote that in case it has been edited in the morning Seriously I personally don´t believe it is worth shipping a PC to Australia. On the other hand maybe you should just take a moment before doing anything rash, sleep on it and maybe things will seem better in the morning or in a few days, I think most of us on here that came to Finland because of HBS are no longer with the partner we came here to be with and are still alive, survive and even thrive, and come on 18 months is not a real attempt to live in a foreign country, it is an extended holiday, I´ve had longer relationships with a pair of socks.

[Logic]

So now you know how it feels when you're not wanted and even though your wife didn't explicitly tell you to go back to your country, she definitely knew that was a consequence.

[ajdias]

Sell it in huuto.net? At least the screen.

[Kutittaa]

I don't know if I want to live here in a less than desirable apartment relying on my friends to do translations for me and such with my landlord if I get a new place. Just surviving doesn't seem like enough.. and I don't know if I want to put up with this country anymore.. I don't know if I love this country anymore. I used to think I was a strong person but that was because I was in love and loved. Now that I am not, I don't know if I can take care of myself here, I don't know if I am up to the challenge. I can't speak the language, it frustrates me to speak with the natives, I feel guilty and embarrassed that I need to resort to English sometimes. I'm almost 24 but I don't think I can do this on my own... I wouldn't have made it a week without my spouse.

I know you've all put up with that but I don't know if it is for me. I am not the kind of person who goes to bars to meet people. I am not the kind of person who could just get over this and move in with someone else straight away or find someone else to fall in love with. I don't have many friends here, but I have some very very good friends here. In fact, Finland was the perfect country for me. Anti-social, uptight and rude but quiet and interesting.

Sure we'll sleep on it but hey I'm not the kind of person who is going to try and convince my wife.. while she is still my wife to continue being my wife. She says she loves me, she says I'm beautiful she says I'm the most amazing thing on earth. But man, she doesn't want to 'be' with me. She doesn't want to wake up in the same bed with me anymore. Her words.. I don't know what I can do with that, I don't know what I can do in general. I might have the right to stay here with the permit because I got it, and I'm not sure if it's valid if I get a divorce. I would assume that it is because in the extension you can say that you divorced and then remarried but this country doesn't really cater to people who don't speak Finnish.

[Dalmatinac]

Like aguinness said you should sleep one night then see what you can do.

Maybe you can send to your home in Australia some of components like cpu,hdd,ram,graphics card. Pc box and motherboard you can buy at home.

[interleukin]

Is it something that you pay for when you buy the ticket or can you just literally walk into an airport with it and say that I want it to go on a plane and I have the cash to pay for it.

This was a few years ago, and it might vary by airlines, but this was not connected to the ticket at all, it was just paying them to transport a "parcel" from A to B. I handed over the stuff a week before flying off, and went to the customs office after arriving to get the stuff.