ojosverdes wrote:Finnish men arent like American men (yes Im american) They dont rescue the women they like.
The two stereotypes I've absorbed from Finnish media and entertainment are #1 that Finnish women want to be rescued FROM sullen and essentially passive-aggressive Finnish men -- not BY them -- and, paradoxically, that in Finland it is the woman who rules the household with a sarcastic tongue and a hefty rolling pin. (Not sure what the rolling pin has given way to in more modern times, but the stereotype persists in movies and TV shows about the present.) These are self-perpetuating fictional cliches, of course, and it's hard to know whether they were originally based more on truth or on novelty (and thus untruth). What's unavoidable is that there are people who end up unconsciously modeling themselves after them in the absence of any better guidance.
I recall one wife in one of the countless Niskavuori movies (but one of the best ones) who batted her eyes and openly solicited a rescuer, but she was presented from start to finish as a laughable character.
Your ex-to-be will eventually recognize what he lost but I know that's little solace for this kind of betrayal.