Rick1 wrote:Cannot say that I am sorry, nitwit knowing everything better wit his 18 months doing nothing.Your wife finally got some brainwave.
I hardly doubt you're in a better situation. Not much else to say there.
As for everyone else, as the mods could check I am indeed back home, and yes I do have my computer. Although there are some minor variables.
First of all I'll get the simple out of the way. I dismantled the computer in pieces, called up a local store and asked if they had any anti-static bags for transporting components. The guy at the store was lovely enough to give me 5 motherboard sized, 5 HDD sized, 5 RAM sized, and 5 medium large anti-static bubble wrap bags for absolutely free. Made my day.
I packaged the components well in boxes of cardboard that I made myself all sized to fit. France was the only place that were a little concerned with the components. But after I explained a few details the woman said she didn't have the 'time' to overlook everything especially since it was all packaged so well and I had a huge list of the itinerary right down to the number and sizes of the screws that I printed out. Hong Kong and Helsinki only asked me to take some of the components out of my bag just so they could x-ray them individually because they were all overlapping.
I left the case at home. Funnily enough when I was getting off the Norwegian flight at Helsinki my bags were the only 2 @#$% bags that were dropped. I watched out the window of the aeroplane whilst this was all happening. Some of the passengers actually started banging on the windows to try and single to these idiots to be more gentle. Anyway so the baggage handlers threw them around like trash, didn't even look at any of the bags... just talked with each other and tossed them over their backs. Lucky I didn't take the case, even with tons of protective packaging if the box had fallen from the hight that my large duffel-bag fell from it would have smashed easily. Multiply that by 4 flights and that is a lot of probability to go wrong.
So dismantled, expertly boxed, bubble wrapped and protected at all times there wasn't a problem. Upon buying a new case for $60 that is 10x better than the old one I had.
http://www.quietpc.com/au-en-aud/produc ... z11-series
I assembled all the components and it works fine. Better actually.
The reason why I explained all of this is because the info one doing this sort of thing is bias, sketchy, outdated and completely @#$%. Someone will probably find this post in the future and be thankful that I explained myself.
Now as for my relationship problem, or lack there of. It's just that. Not a problem.
I didn't really want to explain myself but seeing quite a few people decided to offer their opinion I will at least go the distance to elaborate one last time and put the whole topic to rest.
After 2 days of talking, hugging and crying we sorted out our differences. Of course my wife (yes she is still my wife) hasn't got a single thing to complain about in regards to my 'behaviour' and attitude towards our marriage and herself. She just cannot handle the way our lives were going, and for good reason. She works 3pm - 5pm to 1am - 3am 5 days a week and I worked 8 to 3pm every day. This gave us @#$% all time to be man and wife, spend time together, talk about anything or remotely live our lives comfortably. Somewhere along the lines everything became about money. We had tons, and even after the plane ticket we still do. But just because you finally find yourself at a good amount, doesn't mean you can just stop working... The computer had barely any payments left and I completely paid for it before leaving because that issue crossed my mind. No point reading any terms or agreements if you own the thing yourself. So you can cross that off the list.
It all boils down to the fact that my wife was sick to death of Finland. Turns out despite what I thought she @#$% hates the place. She never wanted to start off there and the only thing she has been thinking about is the holiday she had in Australia when she came to live with me back in 2010. After I got employed my life pretty much did turn to working but that is the kind of guy I am. Of course I noticed that gradually we were sort of drifting into an undesirable position but I thought we had plans around the corner that would change the direction of our lives entirely and therefore it was just worth putting up with it a bit longer. Turns out there was, but in a totally different sense (this situation).
So to make a long story short. My wife is coming here in 3-4 months to live with me for a year. We are then going back to Finland. This means we don't lose what we have gained in Finland as well as have a healthy holiday. We can simply give all of our belongings to my wife's mother and sister who will 'borrow them' until we get back. I get to keep the Finnish I have learned, minus 1 year of depreciation from living in an English speaking environment. I didn't want to leave, I still wish I was there. However it is nice to be home again in a sense and I can stay at our second estate by myself whilst I wait for my wife to clear her final obligations (2 and a half month remaining lease as well as entrance Uni exams etc). If she gets into Uni she'll postpone it. If she doesn't well she'll obviously still come. She's sick of working, sick of studying and she hasn't been on a holiday in 5-6 years. I've been working for almost the entire time I was in Finland without any much as a single break and frankly it's nice to be lazy again.
I'll pop around from time to time to troll, stir !"#¤%, and basically piss anyone and everyone off. No I'm joking but I guess I'll be around. You can all say "I knew it" now if you haven't already. I'm not editing anything, this is all useful !"#¤% to remind myself of and for others to read perhaps and I value all the replies I got. Editing or deleting anything would dishonour anyone who has posted here.
Given that there are still some things that need to be clarified etc. but my wife and I can call and text each other for free. (<3 Android) without ever having to pay a cent and there is always Skype. It's only 3-4 months whilst things are worked out and I will enjoy the break. If she wants to stay longer then a Permanent Permit which she can get instantly is $2000 and she'll have more-or-less the same rights as a citizen. We may just get her one in the first place anyway. I love my wife, I never stopped and she never stopped. After the drama and we got the core of the problem everything she said was 100% truthful. I am not supposed to be in Finland working just yet, I'll go back in a year with a different plan. I love the place and I am very grateful I was able to spend so much time there in the first place and be given the chance to do so. I think everything turned out well in the end. Like some of you said, we have our whole lives ahead of us to work.
If for some reason things go south, I'll live, and we can all say it was never meant to be. Enough said, either way I am happy and I feel extremely positive, I feel entirely devoid of stress or tension and if anything I just miss my wife and she misses me. It was as clear as day in the last week that we spent together that we're made for each other. First real !"#¤% in our relationship after 2 whole years of cohabitating and 1 and a half years of knowing each other. Hopefully it will be the first of many, I look forward to the rest.
To everyone else, no matter if you're a w4#73r, or what your opinion may be. I hope you get the chance to take some time off, holiday and rediscover what it really means to have no stress.
The decision to leave never changed, and we both wholeheartedly believe that we have taken the necessary steps towards living better lives for both of us.
I have nothing more to say on the matter.