finnish flirting

[camelia]

No mind games....absolutely amazing!!!!The say things to you directly, is the best way!!!!Spanish men don´t know what they want at all at any age (same game if they are 25 or 35 or whatever) and they are playing all the time and I feel tired about that.

you remind me of the italian men....
anyway..... i do not know how the finnish guys could think about a woman who try to know him better.
Usually in Italy it is the man who starts... speaking but because this finnish guy looks so shy I started to have a conversation with him and invite him to go out (as a friend),,,maybe am i doing mind games????
will he understand?
Who will know...

[Blondie]

Woh, I wrote this very loooong time ago I have to say that through my experiencie, finnish guys weren´t that directly like all the people around me ( usually girls with finnish partner) they told me they are...Meet a few that weren´t capable of say directly that they didn´t want to be with me. Nevertheless, I´ve living here for almost 5 years and I still think that finnish guys are better than spanish, but I don´t generalize anymore...I never tried to do the first move,they always did.If a guy likes you, he is going to make the "work". I´m in a relationship for more than a year with a finnish guy,very very shy,and he did all the right moves to make sure that he likes me and wanted to be with me!

[FinnGuyHelsinki]

.... he did all the right moves to make sure that he likes me and wanted to be with me!

You mean he had to work on liking you...?

[Upphew]

.... he did all the right moves to make sure that he likes me and wanted to be with me!

You mean he had to work on liking you...?

More likely he had to work with the action after the initial liking... it's not like you just start to chat while waiting for the bus:

[angelong]

Haha, "Ella 1985" - that was well written & so true!! Like with any culture, this is a different world, & trying to immerse in the culture, experience & partake of it, has its definite highs & lows (like any place in the world). A "sleeping dictionary" I imagine would be a great way to learn the challenging language. Best wishes for finding someone to the creator of this thread!

[Finnocanadian]

This thread is just so interesting!

I'm Canadian born and lived here all my life... but I'm from a Finnish family.

This blows my mind!

I'm just like these Finnish guys that people are talking about here. I flirt like Finnish man flirts... if you can call it flirting...

And that's just been HELL...trying to get on with Canadian women. Pretty well puts me right out of the game!

It's interesting that I've been brought up surrounded by Canadian culture but I'm still soooo Finnish.

What's inspiring though is that some women here seem to think that a little Finnish shyness and "beating around the bush" is CUTE. Huh!

Flirting "Finn-style" mostly just makes me invisible to women in Canada.

[mrjimsfc]

You can still be quiet and shy, but flash large sums of money whenever you're in the presense of women and you will have them swarming around you like flys on excrement.

[AldenG]

Here's how Finnish-Americans engage in flirtation and courtship. They're a tough bunch and both activities are kind of rolled into one: The Finn Who Would Not Take A Sauna

Here's an excerpt for those too timid to try the link:

She was broad of beam and when she danced she shook the frozen ground.

She took that shy young man in hand and swept him off his feet

and bounced him up and down until he learned the polka beat.


She was fair as she was tall, as tall as she was wide,

and when the dance was over, he asked her to be his bride.

She looked him over carefully. She said, 'You're kinda thin.

but you must have some courage if it's true you are a Finn.

I ain't particular 'bout men. I am no prima donna.

but I would never marry one who would not take a sauna."



They got into her pickup, and down the road they drove,

and fifteen minutes later they were stoking up the stove.

She had a flask of whiskey. They took a couple toots

and went into the shack and got into their birthday suits.

[JenniSD]

"Marriage, friends, is a lifelong feast, love is no light lunch.
You cannot dabble round the edge, but each must take the plunch."

Aaah, accents. Before I lived in the south, I never would have guessed the words "pin" and "pen" would ever have a chance of being confused, and now here we have plunch and plunge...

On topic, however, I'm overall pretty damned glad my Finn retains all his Finnish honesty and qualities, but speaks more than even most American men I've met.

[camelia]

You can still be quiet and shy, but flash large sums of money whenever you're in the presense of women and you will have them swarming around you like flys on excrement.

where?
in the streap club?

[skandagupta]

Over there. Stars and strips forever!

[Mikha]

Thanks guys - have edited to delete now.

[Tiwaz]

Well, he might have been interested. Just never worked out that you were interested so he took advantage of available and willing woman. Specially if drunk.

And perhaps he, after you caught them, felt that he had blown everything and went to drown his sorrows in booze and booty.




Or he is just a prick deep inside. Impossible to tell. Could go either way or between those. Impossible to say without actually knowing the guy.

Though overall, Finns tend to be (or at least try to be) liberal regarding sex. You and he were not in a relationship, so for Finnish males it would generally mean they are free to go and enjoy themselves with other women. And from Finnish point of view, it generally would not be your business who he shares his bed with. You were not his wife, co-habitant or girlfriend.

[MTB]

A year after this happened she confronted me, told me that she was sorry and that, weirdest of all, he called her my name in bed.

I wouldn't bother about this kind of people. After all, you get what you deserve and life has its "subtle" way of leading you towards the way you should take.

You and he were not in a relationship, so for Finnish males it would generally mean they are free to go and enjoy themselves with other women. And from Finnish point of view, it generally would not be your business who he shares his bed with. You were not his wife, co-habitant or girlfriend.

If you need to be in a relationship (what does that mean, anyway?) in order to be faithful to your feelings about someone... I personally don't really believe that if you get married with this kind of person he won't get drunk and in bed with your other best friend, for whatever reason.

[OneSeeker]

I am under the table laughing in tears! this is great!

sounds like a typical Finnish approach

These is what i have found in my experiences:

BEFORE ALCOHOL:
At the beginning of the night, when still mostly sober, even if they think u are the most beautiful girl in the world they will avoid eye contact and be painfully shy. If you speak to them they will get nervous and drink more.
They also possibly will claim not to speak any english (in perfect english).

AFTER ALCOHOL:
They will stare at you. If you stare back they might talk to you and you might even have a great and entertaining conversation with that guy who before "didn't know any english".

AFTER MORE ALCOHOL:
They are telling you their life story and all about their army service because you look so interested. English now deteriorating. They tell you several times that "you are so beautiful girl"

AFTER EVEN MORE ALCOHOL:
This bit can be a little scary at times. They now no longer speak finnish or english, just a weird mix of both. They might try to dance with you, in which case, lead him carefully to nearest chair (finnish man dancing is not pretty) or maybe sing to you (that ones always interesting).


Don't be offended though, oh men of Finland. Because that being said, I fell for this clever and well planned tactical flirting many times; i guess theres just something about a shy finnish guy asking "do u want kissing with me." thats strangely appealing.