Going back home to Australia permanently. Need postage info!

[Pursuivant]

Maybe I am a quitter. I think my wife is more of a quitter. She doesn't want to see this though, she was having a bad day, she was having panic attacks and freaking out. I tried talking to her, it didn't work. I decided to give up and wait till morning. It's the same thing. Even if something went wrong 'up there' and suddenly it just doesn't work for her anymore. It doesn't matter. She still needs to learn a lesson in life before her and I could continue doing anything.

Maybe your new homo attitude will stop overpopulation of earth. You find some nice hairy bear into your life and you feel right with arsebanditry.

[Kutittaa]

Maybe I am a quitter. I think my wife is more of a quitter. She doesn't want to see this though, she was having a bad day, she was having panic attacks and freaking out. I tried talking to her, it didn't work. I decided to give up and wait till morning. It's the same thing. Even if something went wrong 'up there' and suddenly it just doesn't work for her anymore. It doesn't matter. She still needs to learn a lesson in life before her and I could continue doing anything.

Maybe your new homo attitude will stop overpopulation of earth. You find some nice hairy bear into your life and you feel right with arsebanditry.

Who knows you could have MPD like my wife

I'm going to send the motherboard separately because it's sensitive and fragile. Then I'm going to dismantle everything in the box and just leave the case and the PSU. Package it back up, fill it with foam to close all the empty space up. Then fill it full of those foam beans. Wrap it in bubble wrap and put it back in its box with stryofoam. Those boxes are tested pretty well for travel and stuff. It should be able to survive a fall from a cliff after I am done with it. If it breaks then it wasn't meant to be. I'm just going to put it in 'checked in luggage'. I want to keep the case I have, it's an expensive case and the PSU is brand spanking new. I may change my mind in the not-so-distant future about 1 or 2 things but I think I have it all worked out now. Simple as that. I'll send the motherboard separately because I can't take it in carry on and I've read too much about people having their CPUs ripped off whilst in transit etc.

As for anything else, I have nothing more that needs to be said. Thanks again for all the beautiful replies.
I went and got my passport back today and I also got the letter to send to the population register to tell them I am leaving. I also printed out another form to advise Kela that I am leaving as well.

P.S. Someone please give monkey his banana

[Upphew]

[tizlit]

Is it really all this hassle of dragging/ sending your computer worthwhile!
I am asking you, as have moved from one country to another more than often to live, and decided to leave my computer , and travel only with info on CDs. Is it not possible at all to find a cheap computer to buy? Now I live happily with my little laptop.

[Pursuivant]

For this reason I <3 my mac mini. Though getting a desktop to play games proper... But then I'd need a decent monitor too...

[Oombongo]

Though getting a desktop to play games proper... But then I'd need a decent monitor too...

or watching porn

[californiakontio]

Sorry to hear about your situation, that really sucks. But if I was you, I'd stay and go hit on her cousins and cute friends.

If I moved around the world, left everything I knew, endured financial hardships, learned a completely new language that only 5M in the world speak and in short, completely changed my life only to have my significant other change her mind...I'd be very hurt, but also mad as hell.

For damn sure I'd be running through all her friends. You know which ones, the ones who always looked at you a little too long, laughed at all your jokes. They will feel bad for how their friend is acting and will want to make up for it. Let them.

Reading all of these HBS stories makes me glad my gf is the one making the move to the States vs the other way around. It made more sense, she speaks the language here, can easily get a job (higher paying) and easy integration (cultural familiarity). Sure at some point in a few years we will want to have kids and she will want to have them/raise them in Finland. But by then, we would have worked out any major challenges in our relationship, have all the proper documentation (RP, etc), would learn much more about the Finnish culture so I could integrate easier, not to mention speaking the language somewhat.

I'd be curious to hear stories (good or bad) of people who have made the move that way. The Finn first moving to the foreign partners country, then several years later returning to Finland with the foreign partner.

[Rob A.]

Is it really all this hassle of dragging/ sending your computer worthwhile!
I am asking you, as have moved from one country to another more than often to live, and decided to leave my computer , and travel only with info on CDs. Is it not possible at all to find a cheap computer to buy? Now I live happily with my little laptop.

Yeah...I can't see the point of hassling over a computer....they are obsolete in six months anyway. Unless you are an avid gamer, a good laptop is fine....which is what I have... "attached" to a "decent" monitor.... But monitors are cheap now too.... even for a reasonably sized one..... so why worry about it as well.

Just take out your hard drive, gather together any external drives you might have and let the rest of it go...heck, it might not even be worth trying to sell it...

[ching_chong_peruna]

Ding dong, the witch is dead. +1 for karma

I've always had sympathy and empathy for those who I think deserve it

What a load of baloney. Please disappear asap.

[AldenG]

If it's that miraculous and valuable a computer, ship your clothes home in a box and put the computer in your best carry-on or checked luggage, well padded.

Yes, they toss baggage only a little less than gorillas, but they are even harder on freight boxes.

If you mail it, the main thing is to double-box it with about 3 extra padded inches on every side between the inner box and the outer box.

Still, the biggest danger isn't gashes, it's G-forces. That's why if it were me, I'd remove the hard drive and keep it in my carry-on. Every other component is replaceable but not your own writing, etc.

And if for some reason you can't remove the hard drive and carry it with you (in an antistatic bag or two), then FGS at least have a full backup of things you can't re-download. That usually means stuff you wrote or photographed or recorded yourself and there's often not nearly as much of that as you expect. Heck, I work off an external drive anyway and only use my various computer HDs for backup. This could be the time to start.

[AldenG]

Hmm, come to think of it, did you imply it's being purchased on installment?

Removing it from the country is probably illegal. Be sure you understand the paperwork you'll need.

[Työelämä]

Sorry to hear about your situation, that really sucks. But if I was you, I'd stay and go hit on her cousins and cute friends.

If I moved around the world, left everything I knew, endured financial hardships, learned a completely new language that only 5M in the world speak and in short, completely changed my life only to have my significant other change her mind...I'd be very hurt, but also mad as hell.

For damn sure I'd be running through all her friends. You know which ones, the ones who always looked at you a little too long, laughed at all your jokes. They will feel bad for how their friend is acting and will want to make up for it. Let them.

Reading all of these HBS stories makes me glad my gf is the one making the move to the States vs the other way around. It made more sense, she speaks the language here, can easily get a job (higher paying) and easy integration (cultural familiarity). Sure at some point in a few years we will want to have kids and she will want to have them/raise them in Finland. But by then, we would have worked out any major challenges in our relationship, have all the proper documentation (RP, etc), would learn much more about the Finnish culture so I could integrate easier, not to mention speaking the language somewhat.

I'd be curious to hear stories (good or bad) of people who have made the move that way. The Finn first moving to the foreign partners country, then several years later returning to Finland with the foreign partner.

Your future plans of moving over to Finland with your wife and kids after spending some time in the States with them sound interesting, but there are lot of Americans even foreigners who have taking similar steps and moves and has now ended up in a divorce with their Finnish spouse. I for one atleast knew about 2 cases and have heard about more, just pray for the best for you as you never know this ladies, they change like their weathers.

[aguinness]

Hmm, come to think of it, did you imply it's being purchased on installment?

Removing it from the country is probably illegal. Be sure you understand the paperwork you'll need.

Had thought about that, this computer isn´t even his, but the op will know the rules anyway.

[AldenG]

Maybe I am a quitter. I think my wife is more of a quitter.

Generalizing from a specific instance to a universal statement like either of these sentences is a destructive cognitive distortion. In a way it represents an attempt to stop thinking at all and replace thought with a meaningless absolutist cliché whose content is purely emotional and rarely if ever true. Doing something not to be "a quitter" is a great way to make a monumentally bad life decision -- though in this case you're NOT staying mindlessly just to avoid being "a quitter."

Either a particular situation can and should be rescued or not -- or maybe. The decision has nothing to do with anyone being a quitter. It has to do with the unique characteristic of that particular situation. Usually the word "quitter" is used by others to manipulate you into doing something they want you to do. Leave it out of any deliberations where you think it's important to make a rational decision. Don't let your life be guided by manipulative echoes of people you've been around in the past.

[Rick1]

Cannot say that I am sorry, nitwit knowing everything better wit his 18 months doing nothing.Your wife finally got some brainwave.