channing316 wrote:I still don't see a good future for my children here in the states, but I now know what we need to do, in order to leave the right way, and have a better chance of succeeding when we do choose to leave....
Sorry you feel that way but I think you lack perspective. Unless you've lived in another place you really don't know how good or bad living in the US is. I'm American and I moved here to Finland after marrying my Finnish husband. I've been here over 4 years now and it's been incredibly difficult adjusting here, so much so that it's likely that we'll be moving to the US within a couple of years. The main problem is that I've been unemployed the entire time I've been here. Even after 4+ years here my level of Finnish language skills is nowhere near adequate enough to get a job even as a cashier or waitress. I have no friends here and have been living a pretty socially isolated life. I really miss the choices I had in the US and I miss the diversity of the population. Life is so...dull here, imo. I miss *real* cities. And I want to go to graduate school but there are no programs I'm interested in as the selection of universities here is small. It's really really frustrating and humbling, the migrating thing. And that's even with having a family tie here, a spouse and supportive in-laws.
Before coming here I had started to become disillusioned with the US and thought Finland would be so much better. Now I can't wait to go back and whenever I go to visit my mom there I feel so nourished and happy to be in my own culture and around my own kind. We have no kids yet but if we ever do I'll be glad to raise them in the US. There's more opportunities, rent and housing costs are so much lower, the salary is higher, and there's so much stuff to do (nature reserves, road trips, amusement parks, cultural events, restaurants, etc., and all of it being relatively affordable). There's many states and cities and towns and suburbs to choose from, you know. If you don't like the location you're at now, you can move to an area that's better/safer/more progressive/liberal or whatever it is you're looking for.
By the way, have you thought of taking a family vacation to Finland just to see what it's like? Sometimes places are not like what one has built up in one's mind. I used to think Norway was paradise on Earth but when I finally went there I was disappointed with it. I did, however, fall in love with Denmark while coming back from Norway. You never know about a place if you haven't seen it and experienced it firsthand.