Abortion/having baby

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Ihanajackie
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Abortion/having baby

Post by Ihanajackie » Sun Feb 02, 2020 12:53 pm

Hello!
I recently discovered that I'm pregnant. I'm not sure about weeks, but maybe is something like 2/3 weeks.
The thing is that I would like to have the baby, but at the moment it seems impossible to me, cause I'm still going at integration plan. And in April I'll start studying at TAKK. My finnish language is not the best at the moment. And our financial situation is not amazing.
So, I'm not sure if can have the baby and still study at TAKK. As I'm not working, and just getting kela`s benefit.
My husband already provide many stuffs such as rental apartment, electricity and water. I just help buying food for us. And now with a child in my belly, I feel lost. I would like first to get a good job, and learn Finnish in order to have kids.
I'm so depressed now, cause at the same time I want to have the baby, but our situation might not be good. Its so hard to find a job when the language is not still good. And the benefit from kela might not be enough.
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heretostay
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Re: Abortion/having baby

Post by heretostay » Sun Feb 02, 2020 1:58 pm

I would suggest to make an appointment at the health center as soon as possible. They can tell you your options depending on how far along you are. That would at least give you an idea of a timetable when you need to decide before a certain date. I wish you the best whatever you decide. It is a difficult position to be in and you have my sympathy.

Mizu1993
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Re: Abortion/having baby

Post by Mizu1993 » Fri Feb 21, 2020 9:51 am

Ihanajackie wrote:
Sun Feb 02, 2020 12:53 pm
Hello!
I recently discovered that I'm pregnant. I'm not sure about weeks, but maybe is something like 2/3 weeks.
The thing is that I would like to have the baby, but at the moment it seems impossible to me, cause I'm still going at integration plan. And in April I'll start studying at TAKK. My finnish language is not the best at the moment. And our financial situation is not amazing.
So, I'm not sure if can have the baby and still study at TAKK. As I'm not working, and just getting kela`s benefit.
My husband already provide many stuffs such as rental apartment, electricity and water. I just help buying food for us. And now with a child in my belly, I feel lost. I would like first to get a good job, and learn Finnish in order to have kids.
I'm so depressed now, cause at the same time I want to have the baby, but our situation might not be good. Its so hard to find a job when the language is not still good. And the benefit from kela might not be enough.
For me it would be clear. I would say the baby is more important than learning finnish, having a job, TAKK,.. You have an apartment with your bf and you have food, water, electricity, everything what you need. So why not then? You can study or work later too.

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Re: Abortion/having baby

Post by agroot » Mon Feb 24, 2020 10:50 pm

Mizu1993 wrote:
Fri Feb 21, 2020 9:51 am
For me it would be clear. I would say the baby is more important than learning finnish, having a job, TAKK,.. You have an apartment with your bf and you have food, water, electricity, everything what you need. So why not then? You can study or work later too.
Isn't getting a job that requires Finnish very difficult, even after you learn Finnish?


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