agroot wrote: ↑Tue May 28, 2019 9:30 pm
I never realized my country is such a !"#¤% until I moved here. But since you were in central europe you might not have much to look up to here
But you could at least try - What are the difficulties? What do you spend most of your time and effort on? List all problems and then try to find solutions or workarounds one by one. Your reason for being here in the first place still stands, yes?
What country you come from?
I don't have practical difficulties right now. I still have well paid job with loose schedule, I still have savings, I can still easily afford food and flat and save half of salary. My biggest problem is anxiety about future and regret of the past, that things only get worse. I lost ability to focus on deep mental work, motivation and interest in topics of my study, as well as hobbies. Therefore they will kick me out from uni sooner or later. It is already 6 months not getting better. They already see how useless I am. I alienated my girlfriend and my family. She is returning to home country, and she does not want me to go with her (I was living in her flat before). I was always very dependent on her (both emotionally and practically).
My reason for going to Finland here was ill-conceived, indecisiveness and bad planning and bad self-perception.
I did not want to stop my promising academic carrier, and
After PhD I was already 2x doing some project abroad. I always felt terrible homesick, depression, anxiety, I quit after few months and returned back to my girlfriend and former supervisor. Also already during PhD I was frustrated by many aspects of science work (traveling, not sure if project make sense, if I do something useful, lack of short term reward, problems with self-management, responsibility for projects and money). I don't know why I believed this time it will be different. I just hesitated to discard my promising academic carried (great publication profile) and go to industry. I was actually accpeted as programmer in game company, and it was quite fine, but I left after 2 months to go to Finland (worst decission ever). I also lured my girfriend to go to Finland (she is attracted to traveling), she canceled her job, and I did not want to loose her by pulling back.