friend

[sanam_bl]

Hi ,

[kalmisto]

If you do not get any responses from members on this forum you could get support on these two forums :

http://forums.delphiforums.com/ComfortPlace

http://forums.delphiforums.com/healingbridge

If you are not interested in meeting your "pen friend" it should not matter where the members on those forums are located.

Because I do not know how deep your depression is I give you this link ( in English ) also :
http://www.mielenterveysseura.fi/en/sos_crisis_center

[guls]

Hi Sanam

whats wrong,give a smile first please. depression is a very deep thing and please dont feel that ur life is meaningless now.I dont mean to be too personal saying anything about ur marriage but u know a night is always followed by a day. dont lose hope and try to find happiness in whatever u do. my sincere advice to u,seek professional help.if u dont want,,,,, go out,its a nice day outside,wear a smile on ur face( may be fake) n tell urself that I AM THE BEST n I am going to enjoy today n tomorrow n day after n after n after. may god bless u.look after urself.

gud luck to u

[JobSeeker]

Hi Sanam,

I wud love to share your grief. don't feel depressed and disappointed, take it as a challenge and prove urself by getting over it. Just be urself do watev u like to do in life, watever makes u happy, live ur life the way u wan and best way to be happy is helping others who need help like u. Well I'll be happy to hear about ur prob. and will try to help u as much as I can, as I am myself a student and looking for job also so don't have much time but its not about time its all about intentions.

Well you can write to me on this email address: babysitter0010@Yahoo.com.
waiting for ur mail.

TC

JS

[kalmisto]

sanam_bl

I think "guls" is right. You should seek professional help. If your depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in your brain ( there is such a possibility ! ) a supportive friend would not be enough to cure you - you would also need medication.
http://depression.about.com/cs/brainche ... mistry.htm

[guls]

Hi Sanam

Hope u had a gud day. Dont spoil ur days for something/some nasty thought that can be avoided.I dont know if u agree with me or not but we all have our own destiny.dont blame ur marriage for spoiling ur life.god planned it like that and if it all had to happen in ur life,it happened. many marriages r not successful.marriage is between two people,hopefully its not possible that one spouse is very happy n another is very unhappy.Unfortunately,this is the only relationship which we think that we can leave or change.we may not like our parents or sibings but we dont change them for anything.but only the wearer knows where the shoe pinches. try to see if u cn still mend ur relationship.may be ur spouse is feeling the same but has no access to share. if u get tough time in life, lots of problems then always pray to god for nothing but give u peace n motivate urself by saying THANK GOD IF THIS TOUGH TIME HAD TO COME IN MY LIFE......I LL PASS IT AS DAYS GO N IT WILL BE OVER ONE FINE DAY.but remember marriage is a beautiful relationship,try not to let it go.u can seek help from marriage counsellors.pray to god,hope u feel better soon.

[sanam_bl]

Thanks all you for ur caring words. I really needed it. Makes me feel better.

Last year this day I was expecting my baby.
All of us were so eagerly waiting for my baby's arrival but it did not happen and it got postpone.
Was just remembering that time.It was so beautiful.

[oompah18]

Please have a hug from me. My husband is a real mama´s boy, he lived with his parents till he married me when he was 42!!!!!!!! Now we have been married 8 years, it hasn´t been easy, we have 4 kids under 8, & I have had 2 miscarriages , his mother died suddenly, & his disabled father is terminally ill. He is a typical Finnish man (or maybe just a typical man!) rarely shows any emotion, but I love him for what he is & I have slowly realised that I can´t change him. wow, now I am getting quite emotional writing this, but thank goodness you are all strangers
It IS tough as a foreigner married to a Finn, but it is what I have chosen for my life, & when life gets a little stressed, I just go out into the garden, forest, lakeside, take a deep breath & hear the birds etc, & then realise I wouldn´t be happier anywhere else in the world than here, right now. This sounds awfully corny, but it is the truth, try & think of the good things, we only get one life so we should try to enjoy it!
having read this, it makes me sound a bit weird, but I am sure many of us in "mixed" marriages in a foreign country experience culture & other clashes. I hope you feel a little better!
Allie

[raamv]

Allie,
You are always an inspiration for many!! One of the best and I am in awe of your relenting pursuit of happiness!!
and

[oompah18]

Going through a bit of an emotional state at the moment , am in the middle of book 2 of Under the North Star, by Väinö Linna. Have been reading through bk 1 & 2 till around 2.30am these past few nights, am totally gripped (and totally exhausted . I tried to read it a few years ago, but I didn´t get into it at all. Now, having been totally immersed in Finnishness these past few years, I am totally hooked! Bk 3 sits there, unopened too..... Emotional stuff.
Weird Allie

[mandiblues]

mail me back on mandiblues@yahoo.com
and tell me why you are depressed, i love a pen friend too

[kamal_ahmad]

Sanam, you can contact me at kamal.engr03@gmail.com.

- Kamal

[sanam_bl]

hi