How to help someone with an eating disorder?

[rider1000]

Hey,

My sister-in-law is struggling with an eating disorder. We've tried a few different way to help her, but none have really worked yet. Does anyone have any advice from experience? We know of 1 residential program in Finland that we have considered sending her to, and she might be headed there soon... But are there any that you would suggest?

Thanks...

[AldenG]

It's hard for non-professionals or people in a person's everyday environment to be helpful. The residential program is probably a good idea. These disorders are about so much more than food, and well-meaning attempts to help the person too often push them in the wrong direction. Control, stress, overwhelmedness, self-image, relationships . . . these are all part of the picture. Sometimes a metabolism that doesn't work like most people's is also part of the picture, which can increase frustration and failure. Distance is often very helpful in beginning to untangle causes and triggers so that they can be successfully addressed.

The best ideas about how you and others can be helpful to her might come from a stint in a residential program. Is it highly recommended by past residents and their families?

[rider1000]

The best ideas about how you and others can be helpful to her might come from a stint in a residential program. Is it highly recommended by past residents and their families?

Right... She has been seeing a psychiatrist for almost a year now. But we feel like she needs a residential program. So could you suggest any?