I am looking for info. This is my issue... I have a baby with a Finn, whom we broke up after about 5 months of the baby because he was a drunk and abusive, so i moved out. I never contacted the police about his abusiveness as i thought moving out was good enough solution.
Living alone but he continued to be verbally abusive and threatening me and breaking my stuff when he visited my home so i banned him from coming to my home and he can see our baby on public places. His behaviour was terrible so i asked for a sole custody at the child services, he said no at first and were about to go to court when he changed his mind and gave me sole custody..awarded at the child service not the courts.
During the time we agreed on visitations but he only shows up when he feels like or its "easy" for him as he puts it. His reasons range from he doesn't have a car to Its too difficult on weekdays, again because he doesn't have car which he can get weekend from his mom.
At some point i blocked him from my phone because we couldn't a few weeks before he insulted me..which was getting into me and we now only communicate on email about when he can see baby. So for this reason he claims i have blocked him from the baby, he has lied to his parents that i deny him visiting which is all a bull and they won't believe me when i say its not....why would they!
Anyway, his mother is pushing for a court so they can make it that he can take the baby for weekend at his place, which i am against. He is not entirely into the court thing but his mother is keen on it..Because apparently the current arrangement isn't working even though i have given him freedom to choose the day he wants to visit baby but he just wont unless its easy for him or i take the baby to him. He say if i unblock him he might drop the court thing but i don't see this happening because i can not endure more of his insults which comes at the slightest provocation, i need my sanity!! and of course this he interprets as me being proud.
This is the case and now i need any info on where can i get a lawyer and what are my chances considering am a foreigner¨... i have heard from him and also other people that courts here tend to favour the natives. Also to mention that he is bragging that he has a big lawyer and he is sure am losing. Am not exactly sure if he wants to reverse the custody or just the weekend overnight visits, but am wondering can they reverse custody?
I have no qualms with him visiting baby, but what i am not agreeing is overnights, or him alone with the baby...i just know baby is not safe with him alone, and not even when the mother is there because they are constantly fighting and arguing. With his father and step mom its ok or me...as the previous agreement also says, that he can be with baby when am there or when he is with parents, never alone(mind you that part is expired it needed renewing but he left.... now he is back demanding overnights.
Anybody with info ór delt with this before help...all info will be so appreciated. Thank you
