biting toddler

RA · Post by RA » Tue Apr 10, 2007 11:43 pm

Our 21 month old has recently started biting (or trying to bite) when she gets angry. She has tried to bite me and my husband a couple of times and we've sternly said no biting and she's stopped. Over the holidays, though, she got into a raging fit in the car. (She didn't want to sit in her car-seat). She tried to bite me and I pulled my hand away in the nick of time, and before I could say no biting, she bit herself real hard. Of course that got her into an even bigger rage. This morning when I took her to daycare (she goes 3 times a week), I learnt that she had tried to bite another girl, of similar age, when they got into a tiff over a toy. So .. the question... anyone who's had to deal with a similar issue? What did you do? I don't want her to hurt herself or any other kids at daycare (or anywhere else) .

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littlefrank · Post by **littlefrank** » Wed Apr 11, 2007 12:28 am

Well I understand from another thread that you're in no danger of catching rabies.

Our daughter sometimes bites my ex, use to do it a lot in a tantrum when she was younger but now it happens only rarely, if she did it in front of me I'd tell her off and tell her to give her mum a hug. My ex just tried to keep calm and tell her it wasn't very nice etc, my daughter also went through the stage of saying she would hurt herself, pull her own hair etc, she grew out of that too, so you just have to be patience, try to understand that small children have few ways of relieving their frustration, They can't swear, go to the pub...

RA · Post by RA » Wed Apr 11, 2007 1:36 am

littlefrank wrote:Well I understand from another thread that you're in no danger of catching rabies.

Kuopio does seem to be having all the biters today, huh

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richard berman · Post by **richard berman** » Wed Apr 11, 2007 9:41 am

We had the same with our 5 year old, but she stopped after a year of doing it, our little one has started , I don't think there is much you can do other then tell them off, I have heard of mums and dads bitting back, but maybe this is not such a very good idea.

scoobymcdoo · Post by **scoobymcdoo** » Wed Apr 11, 2007 10:27 am

Hi
We had a similar problem with pinching a few months ago.
For us, the only way we could stop it was to not give a reaction. If she pinched us we would just pick her up and place her at arms length away from us. We didn't say a word and we tried our best not to scream in agony.
After a few days she stopped. I think this was due to us not reacting to her and giving her the reaction she wanted to see.
She tried kicking recently so again we just picked her up, plonked her away from us and ignored the behaviour. Again, she just stopped in 2 days.
Dont give a reaction, dont say anything and remove her from yourself.
Good luck,
Hannah

enk · Post by **enk** » Wed Apr 11, 2007 10:54 am

richard berman wrote:We had the same with our 5 year old, but she stopped after a year of doing it, our little one has started , I don't think there is much you can do other then tell them off, I have heard of mums and dads bitting back, but maybe this is not such a very good idea.

The other one that people kept telling me to do was to stick the kid's
own hand in their mouth and they'd stop.

Our kids were much more persevering than scoobymcdoo's kid, although
we did the same thing and it took ours a couple of months to stop.

-enk

scoobymcdoo · Post by **scoobymcdoo** » Wed Apr 11, 2007 11:55 am

My kid is a bit of an odd ball!
Hannah

enk · Post by **enk** » Wed Apr 11, 2007 11:56 am

scoobymcdoo wrote:My kid is a bit of an odd ball!
Hannah

Actually it probably has something to do with the fact that I had two
of them biting at the same time since there's only a 3.5 year difference
between the eldest and the youngest. With one, I would assume
it would go quicker.

-enk

RA · Post by RA » Wed Apr 11, 2007 8:39 pm

Thanks for all your suggestions. We're going to try the no reaction way since No isn't working. Today's been a good day, nobody got bit

But another child in her daycare group has also started biting.... they're the same age.

poule · Post by **poule** » Thu Apr 12, 2007 10:24 pm

Hi,
I have had 3 kids and they all had a time they started biteing.
I had tried everything until I got so fedup of it I decided to bite back, I agree it is not the best way, but it did do the trick. The point is, the kids dont know how much it can hurt so I did it back right at the moment they bit me, okay I really got a bad feeling when I had done it ,as they cried.
But now they are grown up and there was no further damage, but they did understand that it was wrong and hurt.

So it did work for me, and now my granddaughter started and funny enough my daughter remembered the situation and has done the same to her daughter and again , it worked.

So sometimes the old was is still the best.
I dont believe in hitting kids, but if they were naughty they did get a bottom beating, and no lectureing like nowadays.

littlefrank · Post by **littlefrank** » Thu Apr 12, 2007 10:43 pm

'but if they were naughty they did get a bottom beating, and no lectureing like nowadays.'

But people are mostly civilised these days, luckily for the kids.

poule · Post by **poule** » Thu Apr 12, 2007 11:55 pm

do you think so,
then why do kids nowadays end up with drugs, in deep problems, aggressive. and a attitude.... if there are so civilised???

littlefrank · Post by **littlefrank** » Fri Apr 13, 2007 12:18 am

'then why do kids nowadays end up with drugs, in deep problems,
aggressive. and a attitude.'

If you actually knew anything about the above, then you would know that the majority of kids who commit crimes and turn to drugs come from homes where there is physical abuse and the kids were shown no love. I suggest you read something on the history of juvenile delinquency before you post more 'populist' statements.

EP · Post by EP » Fri Apr 13, 2007 11:28 am

I got so fedup of it I decided to bite back

Sorry, but that would have been illegal in Finland.

richard berman · Post by **richard berman** » Fri Apr 13, 2007 11:44 am

It would be good to hear what your mums and dads used to do to you in the way of teaching you a lesson? I remember there was no sitting down talking about what we did wrong (like in super nanny) it was the dogs lead or my mums slipper, there was me and my two brothers and sister, so a big house hold, now I think back to what my mum and dad went though with us.

, we where not quiet children and we did do some bad stuff (not drugs or anything like that ). But when you think it was not that long ago that the headmaster was still beating kids in British schools.

But we all turned out alright, and we don't beat our own kids, we use the sit down talking thing.

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