Greetings,
just an advice from you or what you think we can do...... Thanks
Jan 2007 i had a fight with my husband, as i was about taking my 7months(then) out of the house, my H try to stop me by taking the baby from me as a result the child head mistakenly hit the wall, i went to the hospital to make sure that my baby was fine.
The social worker was call in while still in the hospital., i told them because i was angry that my H hit the child head on the wall.
i left the hospital with my baby to my friend house, few days later i went to the social worker to say the truth, so she said she can't do anything since my H did not commit the crime.
Now just yesterday some pepper came from the court, stating that the child custody has to be taking from my husband.and that polis is also involved
advice thanks.
some advice pls....
In dealing with similar sorts of cases when working in the public sector, I would say that your situation is slightly tricky.
What makes it difficult is that social services tend not to react well to a change in the description of events. They tend to be under the assumption that the reason you have changed your story is that you have been coerced into doing so. I'm not saying this is the case, but you have to understand it from their perspective. In many cases of domestic abuse, people try to cover the truth out of fear for themselves or their children.
I would imagine that the only way to proceed in this case is to get your stories straight and tell the truth to the authorities.
I am saying this with the utmost respect, but do also bear in mind that if your husband does have violent tendencies, it might be a good idea to consider the welfare of your child. I obviously do not know the details of the case, but I recommend that you think about your further actions very carefully.
What makes it difficult is that social services tend not to react well to a change in the description of events. They tend to be under the assumption that the reason you have changed your story is that you have been coerced into doing so. I'm not saying this is the case, but you have to understand it from their perspective. In many cases of domestic abuse, people try to cover the truth out of fear for themselves or their children.
I would imagine that the only way to proceed in this case is to get your stories straight and tell the truth to the authorities.
I am saying this with the utmost respect, but do also bear in mind that if your husband does have violent tendencies, it might be a good idea to consider the welfare of your child. I obviously do not know the details of the case, but I recommend that you think about your further actions very carefully.
.I would imagine that the only way to proceed in this case is to get your stories straight and tell the truth to the authorities
oh, that is the truth he never and can never hit his child head on the wall. i was just so angry at that time that is why i'm feeling so guity now, if my child was a grow up child he would have defend his father. he did not at all hit the child he never did. ''oh my God'' will they ever belived me? this might tear our marriage apart i can feel it already and i can't forgive myself and i know he will never forgive me.
thanks for your reply.
oh, that is the truth he never and can never hit his child head on the wall. i was just so angry at that time that is why i'm feeling so guity now, if my child was a grow up child he would have defend his father. he did not at all hit the child he never did. ''oh my God'' will they ever belived me? this might tear our marriage apart i can feel it already and i can't forgive myself and i know he will never forgive me.
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Hi. I guess that, if the situation seems to be now not as you desired because police has already knowledge and a 'decision' made regarding the custody of your child. That decision can be appealed to the court and the TRUTH can be revealed. However, this process might take time, and most important it will require cooperation between you and your husband, (it seems also that you do not want to lose your marriage) and good lawyers too... If he loves you, he might forgive you.
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Hi. I guess that, if the situation seems to be now not as you desired because police has already knowledge and a 'decision' made regarding the custody of your child. That decision can be appealed to the court and the TRUTH can be revealed. However, this process might take time, and most important it will require cooperation between you and your husband, (it seems also that you do not want to lose your marriage) and good lawyers too... If he loves you, he might forgive you.