Wedding - Celebration and meeting new family

kanarciso · Post by **kanarciso** » Tue Jul 17, 2007 3:54 am

Any ideas how to celebrate wedding in Finland?

My Fiancée and I are going to Finland in December to visit his family and friends.

We will have the civil wedding in Australia and the religious one in Brazil, but I really would like to do something in Finland to celebrate our marriage and have something nice with his family. I don’t know them yet and I would like to make a good impression…

Does anyone have any idea what we could do? Money is a bit of problem as the travel itself will be already expensive.

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JimmyBang · Post by **JimmyBang** » Tue Jul 17, 2007 9:42 am

...and I know theres some kind of Finnish thing were the family "steals" the bride at the (a) reception party, then the groom has to do all sorts of crazy requests in order to get her back...

(I wonder if any groom ever just didnt do the things requested?...

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richard berman · Post by **richard berman** » Tue Jul 17, 2007 11:05 am

I got some dirty looks at my wedding, when I was joking and said no i would not sing to get my wife back

did it in the end so people world stop with the evil eye

Karhunkoski · Post by **Karhunkoski** » Tue Jul 17, 2007 11:19 am

richard berman wrote: did it in the end so people world stop with the evil eye

Just to stop the evil eye, or because you wanted your wife back?

kanarciso · Post by **kanarciso** » Wed Jul 18, 2007 4:09 am

I hope my fiancée doesn't need to do the Chicken dance!!! Probably he would give up the bride!

Not to mention that I am too shy! I would be red the whole wedding!!!

Do you think a dinner with family and closest friends is a good idea? Or a nice afternoon tea? I would like to do something quite informal, but I don’t know how Finns are… Is it normal for the bride to give presents to the new family?

You know… I just have one chance to make a good impression!

EP · Post by EP » Wed Jul 18, 2007 11:02 am

My Fiancée and I are going to Finland in December to visit his family and friends.

We will have the civil wedding in Australia and the religious one in Brazil, but I really would like to do something in Finland to celebrate our marriage and have something nice with his family.

But aren´t his parents coming to your wedding? You will meet them there. Or is the wedding after December?

But really, you don´t have to do anything, just try to be your normal self. You will go to your future parents-in-law´s house, sit in a dinner table, smile, offer to help your mother-in-law with cooking/cleaning up, and so on. Just be sort of every-day-kind-of-girl, and even though you are an adult let them be parents for a while, after all, it is their son, and they want to see you the way you are, not some ceremonial figure. So no formal dinners or afternoon teas. Just be like you had just walked in from next door.

KatGrrl · Post by **KatGrrl** » Thu Jul 19, 2007 12:31 pm

I agree with EP. Finns are generally down-to-earth & easy going. I'm a foreigner myself and we had our formal wedding celebration overseas. Thus for the Finnish-do, we just got a cottage with a nice lawn, provided lots of food and invited close friends and family. (his mum did all the food preparation, so I didn't stress about that)

Alternatively, just a simple get-together as EP suggested around the dining table for close family members will do.

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