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Post by littlefrank » Thu Oct 18, 2007 7:31 pm

'the keyboard did not have a fault in page 12'

Keyboards can be faulty at odd times raamv, my number keys always get stuck when I have to put my age, 2 and 1 seem to always work though.


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Post by raamv » Thu Oct 18, 2007 10:13 pm

littlefrank wrote:'the keyboard did not have a fault in page 12'

Keyboards can be faulty at odd times raamv, my number keys always get stuck when I have to put my age, 2 and 1 seem to always work though.
I do understand that LilFrank!! ...but if you check the poster's profile and his posts, he seem to be intermittingly alternate between caps lock and regular typing...which seems to suggest that somehow he doesnt care about this at all!! and the easiest excuse would be stuck keys.:-)
I aint accusing him..but then why blame the KBD....
and mind ya he wasnt typing numbers..

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Post by littlefrank » Thu Oct 18, 2007 11:27 pm

I should have put a 'smiley' next to what I wrote, but it's not something I usually do in 'real' life so I ...

I think this Cuban guy's a bit suspect myself.
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Post by sammy » Thu Oct 18, 2007 11:35 pm

debonaire wrote:Do you think any sane person would purposely go on writing in capitals when so many people have already asked him to avoid it..
Precisely :D

More than once I (and IIRC some others too) have doubted whether his is a real case or a made-up hoax - ultimately, it doesn't matter, as -real case or not- it is kind of interesting to speculate what paths/options there would be... but yes, I agree with littlefrank there.

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Post by Hee » Fri Oct 19, 2007 7:50 am

I don't see the problem if he writes in caps, it's not even particularly annoying, it's just big letters, yeah lower case would be easier to read, but I can still read it, not a big deal.

I don't think he's making it up, but not much bothered either way. I hope he sorts everything out.

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Post by rinso » Fri Oct 19, 2007 8:56 am

The caps are not the main problem, it's his inability to address the problems in his life and blaming others for it.

And I too start to wonder about him.

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Post by Hee » Fri Oct 19, 2007 10:46 am

rinso wrote:The caps are not the main problem, it's his inability to address the problems in his life and blaming others for it.
Seemed to me others are quite to be blamed, not completely, but somewhat. And having no PR and no money I don't think he can afford to do much else.
He tried to get help and was told he couldn't without a PR. Now he has a PR I hope he can get things together, that won't happen over night and won't be easy.

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Post by Zakaria » Tue Nov 06, 2007 5:31 pm

hey , it is been long time not to write here.
my update , i got a job , i am working at the moment , and i thought me working will make life easier for my self and my partner , but it seems not to be the way.well today she is askingme to give her amount money , she said that she want all the money she spent on me sinde the day she sponsored me , she want it all back. i went to work and when i came back i find out that she put my bag with my clothes at door askingme to leave.
i know my right as husband , that i am allowed to live in that house as i consulted a lawyer and she says that she has no right to askme to leave the house unless i receive a paper from court which askingme to leave the house.

so the legal side of it i know what it is ...

but if she comes home tonite screaming and yelling askingme to leave , shall i leave or not?...any comment will be apreciated !!!

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Post by Hank W. » Tue Nov 06, 2007 5:46 pm

Depends if you want to save your nerves or not. Congratulations on the job anyways.
Cheers, Hank W.
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Post by rinso » Tue Nov 06, 2007 6:30 pm

Don't leave, when you do, it might be difficult to come back.
Don't give her the money, you are going to need it yourself.

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Post by EP » Tue Nov 06, 2007 6:47 pm

Sponsoring means sponsoring, it is not a loan that one must pay back. Don´t pay.

Would you have a place to go? How big a fight there would be if you stay? The most important thing righ now is that you manage to do your job properly, and later get a residence permit based on employment. Sounds like she does not remember that you are MARRIED, it not the same like throwing out a boyfriend.

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Post by Hank W. » Tue Nov 06, 2007 8:09 pm

and.. (all the Finnish women will crucify me for this)...

SHE is the one who imported the "summer man", SHE is the one who is responsible. So like the summer kitten, after you get tired with it, you cannot throw it into the snow to find its own food because it can't. First they are too good for the local men, and then when they can't find anyone they import a boytoy and throw them out when it dawns on them they have the problem in their own attitude and not the menfolk, be it us winter men or the summer men with HBS.
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Post by Zakaria » Thu Nov 08, 2007 1:15 pm

HI
She started divorce after me fiding out that she waisted all money from kella that she received and she wantsme to pay the rent with my first salary for the 2 weeks, if i do wat i am gona eat , i find out that the new hoem we live in , it is only under her name and not both of us ..mmmm does it ring the bell?was she planning to kickmeout from the beginning ....now she is saying that she will deportme back to my country and i wont be able to see the birth of my child...
now i am trying to get a new home but the social help is so slow ...and i am worried that she would accuse me of any lies i want to get out as quickly as i can , so i hope they helpme to find home soon.

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Post by Flossy1978 » Fri Nov 09, 2007 9:49 pm

I don't mean to be rude. But this sounds kind of funky.

I mean how on earth did you get a residence's permit so freaking fast and so easily? That's not at all like the Finnish Immigration system to do that.

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Post by rinso » Sat Nov 10, 2007 8:53 am

Somewhere in this forum it is explained that you cannot get a divorce within two years after marrying. So first get good advice on that.
Second since you have a job now, you could get the residence permit based on work. Get information about that too. (also lots of info here)
The housing situation is more complicated. Whatever your rights are, it is not recommended to stay in a place where you're not welcome. If she locks you out, you have an immediate problem.

But now it is time for you to seriously consider if you want all this sh*t happening to you or if it is better to go back and live a normal life.


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