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Re: Here we go again..another school shooting

Post by raamv » Sun Sep 28, 2008 9:02 pm

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TampereOwl wrote:As I think pretty much everyone will agree, it's better to bring your kids up in Finland because life is generally much less stressful here.
I don't agree with this at all. I was okay with life in Finland UNTIL I had my daughter. I was afraid to move back to the states though for a million and one different reasons, however I finally got the courage to go there last spring and spent most of the summer there with my daughter. I came back to Finland 6 weeks ago with the intention to resume life here, but decided after one week that life HERE was too stressful (among other things I won't mention because the list is too long :wink: ). Not only that, but if your child isn't in daycare here, there is almost NOTHING for kids to do if you live in central Helsinki (unless of course the weather is good, then you can go to a park). Unfortunately, the scales tip way more in favor for cold/wet/rainy & overall bad weather here, which wouldn't be a complaint of mine if there were enough good indoor activities for kids to partake in. Anyway, we're moving back to the states permanently in a few days and I couldn't be happier about it :D

This isn't an anti-Finland post, it's just my experience. There is no perfect place on earth to raise children, you just have to bring them up to the best of your ability with the cards that life dealt you. The grass will always be greener on the other side no matter where you are. I can just hear myself now complaining in weeks to come about how things in America aren't done the Finnish way :lol:
Most parents dont ask the question of whose life is stressful where?
For adults who are foreigners, Life is stressful here in Finland, given the circumstances that most dont learn the language and culture and rarely integrate here...
But for Children , they are not like that and pick up languages easily wherever they move to and the culture and customs etc..
For Children elsewhere the life is stressful given the kind of things they go through in daycare/school etc and its easier for adults there ( well mostly)..
I am amazed that you say that you cant find things to do in Helsinki for kids... It is one of the top Kid-friendly cities in the world... Of course, if you expect things to do where you need English..then it could be a little less but still lots of things... ( There are almost muskari, uima allas, askartelu huone, etc etc )

Good luck with you moving to the states...


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Post by sinikala » Mon Sep 29, 2008 1:18 am

raamv wrote:For adults who are foreigners, Life is stressful here in Finland, given the circumstances that most dont learn the language and culture and rarely integrate here...
Can we have some facts and figures for this "most", please?
raamv wrote:But for Children , they are not like that and pick up languages easily wherever they move to and the culture and customs etc...
And where do you get that from? Do you have first hand experience? Me, I'd attended 5 schools in 3 countries by the age of 11... and from my viewpoint, I have to say; you are talking out of the top of your head.
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Re: Here we go again..another school shooting

Post by starviego » Mon Sep 29, 2008 2:04 am

http://www.hs.fi/english/article/bTHURS ... 5239733955
According to Rauno's account, Saari sought treatment of some kind last summer, and was given tranquilisers.

[Comment: Generally speaking, there is always evidence released that these 'Columbine-clients' were taking some type of prescribed medication, though why and who prescribed the drugs will remain a mystery.]

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http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldne ... ghter.html
It has been revealed that Saari was friends with Pekka-Eric Auvinen, 18, who carried out a remarkably similar shooting at a school in the Finnish town of Jokela last year.
They played virtual war games together and plotted their crimes with each other on the internet.

The two school killers also sent typed messages to each other on their computers talking about their plans for a shooting. One of the messages said: "Let's do it together."

Auvinen wrote: "If I can’t do it I know you can make it."
They even bought their guns at the same weapons store, called Tera-asekeks, a few hundred yards from the school in Jokela where Auvinen killed eight people and himself last November.

Saari then waited 10 months before carrying out his rampage in Kauhajoki, 150 miles from Jokela.

Police fear Finland could now be facing a network of other potential school killers linked by the internet. ....

A comrade in the army said: "He wasn’t very good at shooting and didn’t really know how to handle a gun."*

*Saari seems to have had a Lee Harvey Oswald-like transformation in his shooting and gun handling ability since his leaving the military.


This raises some big problems for the police. Because it was revealed after the Jokela shooting of Nov 7, 2007 that shooter Pekka Auvinen had internet contact with another school shooting plotter--Dylan Cossey, 14--who lived near Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, and who was arrested a month earlier. At that time the Finnish authorities should have fully investigated all his friends, associates, and internet contacts. Are they telling us they now missed Auvinen's internet conversations wherein Saari was also planning a shooting? That's incompetency at best, treason at worst.

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Post by sammy » Mon Sep 29, 2008 8:53 am

Life goes on - sort of
A memorial service was held at Kauhajoki's local Lutheran church on Sunday in memory of the people killed in last week's shooting at a local vocational college. A 22-year-old student killed ten people at the college on Tuesday, and also took his own life.

In a sombre service attended by President Tarja Halonen and members of the government, Bishop Simo Peura pondered whether negligence is contributing to the anxiety of Finland's youth.

"Have we adults been blind? What if the distress of our children and youth is caused by a lack of responsibility on behalf of adults and society? This is the discussion that faces Finns now. We need the whole country to make a change," he said.

Echoing the thoughts of many child psychologists, Peura then pleaded with parents to spend more time with their children.

"In order to ensure a happy life for our children, we have to sacrifice some other activities that take too much time away from them," he said. "We have to focus on daily life."

Kauhajoki's church pews were filled by family and friends of the victims who died in the shooting. Similar services were held in churches across the country.

Today, Monday, schools in Kauhajoki reopen for the first time after the tragedy.
http://www.yle.fi/news/left/id102882.html

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Post by TampereOwl » Mon Sep 29, 2008 12:55 pm

How full are the classes, though? I spoke to a lot of kids there who said they would never go back to school.

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Post by sammy » Mon Sep 29, 2008 1:32 pm

TampereOwl wrote:How full are the classes, though? I spoke to a lot of kids there who said they would never go back to school.
That's difficult to say - perhaps they'll tell that in the evening news... maybe there indeed is a small amount of people who were 'there' that day and find it too difficult to go and face it... not that they'd really use those particular classroom(s?). I suppose it's a bit like Myyrmanni. Everyone just goes there eventually, everyone knows and remembers... but eventually life goes on.

According to this piece of news they are, for the next few days, concentrating on other things than actual studies. Coping and so on.

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Post by jo_bliss » Mon Sep 29, 2008 2:01 pm

Our British youngsters don't just head for the knife drawer. They are also quite happy just kicking people to death. :roll:

It even happened in Cornwall a week or so ago and that WAS a shock.
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Re: Here we go again..another school shooting

Post by MTB » Mon Sep 29, 2008 2:09 pm

People kill people but they use guns sometimes...
do we, as a society, need guns available for everyone?
If you say yes, then I will ask you why are not nuclear weapons available for general public or why don't they sell it in the free word market to some states, in order to make profit?

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Post by Rabs » Mon Sep 29, 2008 2:49 pm

MTB wrote:.... why are not nuclear weapons available for general public or why don't they sell it in the free word market to some states, in order to make profit?
coz... nuclear technology transfer includes lot of technical know-how and perhaps the greatest obstacle in it is a ban imposed by UN and other nations. If that's not the case, there are lot of greedy capitalists, trust me, who wouldn't give a !"#¤% about peoples' lives! and buyers... well it's anyone's imagination :twisted:

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Re: Here we go again..another school shooting

Post by Rosetta » Mon Sep 29, 2008 10:33 pm

Pursuivant wrote:question is Rosetta when did you leave Finland? with the economy as it is life hasn't gotten any easier.
Well, not that many years ago, in fact (for the most recent time ;)); and I have (at least in my opinion) kept quite a close eye on events there, including economy. To my eyes the current situation in Finland seems better than here, in any case, with prices getting higher all the time (food prices among other things), and everyone talking about the credit crunch and economic recession, etc. etc...
TampereOwl wrote:Good points by rosetta about Britain, but I don't really see any direct comparisons. As I think pretty much everyone will agree, it's better to bring your kids up in Finland because life is generally much less stressful here. But media comment on anything and everything, and it is possible to simultaneously think Finland could do something differently and that Britain has a lot of problems to deal with. I think you probably get a lot of your gangknifenastypeople hysteria from that very same British media you don't think has any right to talk about Finland's problems, so I'm struggling to see your point really....
Well, the comparisons were mainly due to the fact that I am a Finn living in the UK (for the moment), so it's kind of unavoidable (for me) to compare ;) And also due to the aforementioned way the British media has talked about this event. Yes, of course there's also a lot of talk about knife crime, but not in a similar way they have talked about this event, in my opinion... And e.g. only a month or so ago a teenager was knifed to death quite close to where we live, the memorial flowers etc. are still in that spot, so I get a daily reminder of knife culture here even without any help from the media...

edit: and I do agre with those of you who say Finland is more child-friendly than most other places (that I've been to, at least); for some time I've been envying my friends who can e.g. go to any of several playgrounds and parks, take a walk in the forest etc. with their children, and that's in Vantaa, not in the countryside... (And now I know someone's going to chime in and say "Vantaa is countryside"... ;)) Not here, no way, no how.

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Post by Pursuivant » Tue Sep 30, 2008 1:31 am

and living in Vantaa I know :twisted:
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Post by ScubaGirl » Tue Sep 30, 2008 1:33 am

raamv wrote: I am amazed that you say that you cant find things to do in Helsinki for kids... It is one of the top Kid-friendly cities in the world... Of course, if you expect things to do where you need English..then it could be a little less but still lots of things... ( There are almost muskari, uima allas, askartelu huone, etc etc )

Good luck with you moving to the states...
Thanks for the well wishes. I'm almost done with all my packing so now I have time to write :P

I didn't want to make comparisons because I know how fragile people on this forum are if you say anything negative about Finland, but you forced it out of me :P. I wanna meet the person who said Helsinki is one of the top kid friendly cities in the world and find out what they were smoking :wink: . Nothing friendly about the local drunks coming by the playground digging around for bottles or passed out on the benches in the parks so we cant kick the ball around (and I live in a supposedly very good & expensive neighborhood). Not to mention the broken beer bottles, occasional puddles of vomit, gobs of spit every few steps and piss on every corner. Or how about the smell of piss in the elevators at the metro station (or often times even in the metro itself!) as I travel to get to a muskari session that only takes place once a week, where all of the Finnish moms ignore us even though I make an effort to communicate with them. There are only 2 muskari classes that I know of within 20min travel time from my place (I'm sorry, but I don't wanna spend all day on public transportation with an anxious toddler) and they both occur only once a week and in one of them, they canceled the session 3 times in one month without notice, so I just gave up on going out of frustration. The swimming is something that I couldn't do because the hall nearest to me didn't have a suitable time that fit in with my daughter's nap schedule. I didn't want to travel far to get to a swimming class that fit our schedule because you also have to remember that there's not always a spot on the bus if you have a pram. Sometimes you get stuck waiting for a 2nd, 3rd or even 4th bus before there is one with a free spot. That's no fun if it's rainy/windy/freezing cold, etc... and your child is trying to climb out of the pram. The things that there are to do here are so few and far apart and happen for such a limited amount of time per week. That leaves a whole lot of empty hours in a week trying to find something to do with your toddler. Our apartment is too small to just stay inside all day and even if it weren't, I wouldn't want to do that. I like to take her out at least twice a day. Anyway, just look in the family section of this forum. There's always moms trying to start up play groups because of the lack of things to do here.

On the flipside, the neighborhood I'm moving to in the states has 3 libraries all within 10 min from each other that offer both storytime & sing-a-long time 6 days a week, 3 times per day (morning, afternoon and even an evening session for those working parents who want to share it with their children after work) and they all have a MASSIVE room just for children filled with developmental toys & games. The park district offers painting, dancing, swimming, singing, theater, fitness, baking/cooking, pottery, etc... HUNDREDS of classes broken into age appropriate groups, so even the youngest of kids can participate. There is a 3-story children's museum open 7 days a week with activities, interactive exhibits, and special classes all day long and the cost of a year's membership is a measly $65 for unlimited access & time spent there. All the malls have kids areas (one for small tots and another for bigger kids) and the one nearest to where we'll live even has a carousel. There are 2 diners nearby where all the meals are delivered by choo-choo- train (ok, not something for every day, but it's a silly/cute thing to do once a month) and there are also some kid themed restaurants full of games & rides. There are 2 free petting zoos open all year round, and a GAZILLION clean parks with very well maintained playground equipment. Even the book stores have children's areas where kids can run around or flip through books while parents can drink coffee and read magazines and there is never any obligation to buy anything. In the 4 months we spent there, I didn't have one single day that went by where I woke up wondering if we'd be stuck at home if it were raining. There's an endless array of things to do that will keep toddlers active both indoors and out in any kind of weather.

I know there are plenty of horrible places in America where I wouldn't dare raise my daughter, so no need for anyone to shove that down my throat :wink: . I'm also sure there are plenty of good places in Finland to raise children with plenty of interesting things to do. I'm only comparing the place I live now to the place I'm moving to at the end of this week. I wish the best to all the expat families living in Finland and hope your experience is better than mine was. I definitely had some great years in Finland, and quite a few that were not so great. People on this forum are always saying, ''If you don't like it here, then stop complaining and LEAVE!''. It's not always as easy as that, but I finally found a way to do it :D

Thanks for this forum Neil, it's been very useful! Cheers everyone :thumbsup:
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Post by Pursuivant » Tue Sep 30, 2008 6:34 am

ScubaGirl wrote: I know how fragile people on this forum are if you say anything negative about Finland,
naah, they'll just burn your nipples on a cooker :wink:
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Post by Pursuivant » Tue Sep 30, 2008 6:38 am

ScubaGirl wrote: I'm only comparing the place I live now to the place I'm moving to at the end of this week.
shes moving from Hill Street Blues to Gilmore Girls, who can you blame
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Post by ScubaGirl » Tue Sep 30, 2008 9:29 am

Pursuivant wrote:
ScubaGirl wrote: I'm only comparing the place I live now to the place I'm moving to at the end of this week.
shes moving from Hill Street Blues to Gilmore Girls, who can you blame
LOL :lol: . Actually the town IS very Stars Hollow-esque, only bigger. Good call :lol:
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