Using a child as a leverage in punishing their fathers

[LeyLey]

Hello Good People!

I had been in a marriage with a woman, that we are both from foreign countries and by the year 2010 we had have our first baby to where it failed her being a mother and so couldn't become a good wife and then she was allowing the marriage to be controlled by her mom back in Africa, her mom was the mastermind, and later her ex was involved to bring the misunderstandings towards us, and she have had a friend of whom they advises each other to a lot of dramas that was messing in us, by February of this year I left Finland for Sweden and now I found out she was happening to use my daughter as a leverage and there I heard that she has been lying in telling people that I molested the kid, doing that she believes that will provide her rights being a sole custodian.

Our relationship has been intense, misunderstood, and she was even involving Social's officials secretly to which I didn't know in the first hand but later I found, in doing so she was giving the Social's officials the picture that she thought it might be safer later on, now she is hiding my daughter from seeing me, and she has denied informing on my daughter's whereabouts, and she also doesn't want to send my daughter's pics and when I use her friends to talk to her she doesn't answer their calls, she doesn't answer their emails, and she even doesn't answer texts on her phone.

As a custodian to my beloved daughter I am desperately wondering why is she using a kid in the middle of her problems, and I am depressed, haven't seen my daughter for over 10 months now and she doesn't care a thing.

I was just taking time in being understanding and tolerant towards her behaviours but now I felt it is becoming too much and I started to contact the Social and there my lawyer in dealing with the ordeal.

What do you think?

[cors187]

You have to use a tactic now to capture and hold true evidence of your spouses will to destroy you.

Later when your wife has surfaced from he covert tactic and wants to force you to do something according to the law, you get to use the true evidence that has bearing on your future position.
Sad but true.

[LeyLey]

You have to use a tactic now to capture and hold true evidence of your spouses will to destroy you.

Later when your wife has surfaced from he covert tactic and wants to force you to do something according to the law, you get to use the true evidence that has bearing on your future position.
Sad but true.

I am not sure if I understand you well, will be happy if you can advise in a method not similar.

[cors187]

Method= Your money
Hire Private detective to capture true usable evidence.
Private detective knows lawyer.
Lawyer keeps true evidence intact.

Years later-
Usable evidence can be used to keep your wife from screwing you over and over again.

[Flossy1978]

You need to get your a*se back to Finland as in yesterday and get yourself to a Lastenvalvoja who are representatives for children involved in divorce. If your wife then won't come to an agreement you go to court. And keep a diary of everything with dates, times, happenings etc. Factual! No emotions.

You really should get back to Finland. It is in yours and your child's best interest.