I need somebody on my side!

[Binom]

Hello, I am a finn that doesn't speak finnish because I was raised in Italy, I understand it is a big handicap here and I am trying to do my best to learn the language. Here is my story:

Last year this italian man that lived in Kpo and has children here, asked me to help him since he was without job and without a house. My father always repeated to me that hospitality is sacred so I welcomed him to our house, in 5 weeks, after giving him money, food, clothes and a sofa to sleep (my house is small) he and my ex gf started to cheat on me and when I was about to discover that he left to another place, my ex, then, asked me to leave the house and gave me 2 weeks notice, and I did, even before those two weeks so that our 2 y.old child would not see us fighting. I went to stay for 3 months at a friend's house and meanwhile i went to the Lastenvalvoja and made a contract :

50 % custody
3 days a week for me and 4 for the mother
address is the mother's
we then agreed that these 3 and 4 days would be till the end of this June when my daughter is 3 and that we would then have her a week each and that I would bring her to Italy on Christmas for a week. Of course the Lastenvalvoja did not write down these things, although, when interviewed and TAPED by me she says that she remembers us agreeing on that.

1st of November I manage to get a house of my own, a two room apt. I made my living room also my bedroom and I made a nice little girl's bedroom for my daughter in the other room.

It was a very difficult year where every time we met I didn't want my child to suffer so I told my daughter that she had two houses and it was a privilege I always told her that daddy loves her mommy and so on even though I was seeing another women which I kept out of my house when the baby was with me since it was already a stress for her the current situation with her mom's boyfriend new in her life. Needless to say that the mother put this man sleeping in her bed a week after I was gone and that my daughter was sleeping in the same bed.

I started my investigations on this man because of somethings I remember he told me and found out at the police station that... he was already been judged guilty for beating together with his ex his non-biological child and forcing the 5 year old with adhd to eat pepper as a punishment for saying bad words.

I also found out that he was fired form his ex job (but is employed now) because he was caught stealing.

In the first months this man was going to bed with my ex and his ex and they both knew about it, I also talked to his ex and she told me that this man while in bed would tell her about my ex's sexual preferences and features. I think so he could put them in competition and get the best out of both.

When we were still friends he also told me that he had some kind of relation with a 17 y.o. girl (sick, since he is over fourty).

One day his ex goes to my ex's house and shouts "Come out; your children want to see you" and he never came out and neither my ex opened the door.

Christmas came and she denied me the passport to take her to Italy probably because I made a lastensuojeluilmoitus because my daughter came with unexplained bruises home

then, in Feb. she didn't give me my daughter on days that we agreed that were mine (at least 3 times)

When we did the lastensuojeluilmoitus at the last moment we aknowledged that the social worker had changed and i didn't even get an Italian translator (I got an english one) and she always interrupted me when I was talking about the danger of this man, in one occasion she also advised my ex not to answer my question (of course the translator did not translate) but luckily I had taped this 1 and 1/2 conversation on my iPhone.

couple of weeks ago my daughter came home full of bruises on her left leg, and the week after even more and bigger bruises on her right leg, in both episodes I took her to the hospital and had her checked and this is currently under investigation by the police.

Few days ago I bring her to court to decide if a fine is applicable to her for not giving the child to me and the passport thing. and....yes, they fined her.

Now we have to find an agreement for after June on how to keep the baby, her lawyer's paper said that my ex now only wants to give her to me 1 weekend every two weeks and might consider for the future Full custody (on what basis?) and I want one week each as we agreed we would do last year.

As I said I want one week each and would like her to be the meeting parent, so change the huolto to me so that I could be a much more fair parent than she is.

Happens often that my daughter cries when she leaves me, I had to film that as evidence.

She doesn't like this man.

I won the first case in court, I had to do that because the social services were on her side (as she said to me and as I have experienced)

I feel alone in this battle for my child's right and i am asking any advise you can give me, Being a finn and not able to speak the language puts me in the eyes of institutions in the position of a foreigner.

Nice thing is that my daughter speaks both languages (Finnish and italian) , and with me among other things, is learning to swim, play piano, ice skate, english language and to read the alphabet.

Thank you for your time that you took to read this.

[onkko]

First and only i can think is http://www.xn--istlastenasialla-wnb.fi/frontpage/

[Binom]

First and only i can think is http://www.xn--istlastenasialla-wnb.fi/frontpage/

thank you for the quick reply, i will do that

[chriscross]

if your doing everything that's been agreed on the paper from the child welfare then your doing good

but if you really thin your daughter is in harm from this other guy then you would already make plans to goto court get a court order against this man and take it from there

if the guy is violet then you have a very good case to get your daughter to live with you
act now before its to late

because the court will take into fact how long your daughters been living with your ex