Your advice would be appreciated

[lifeisfun]

Hi all

One of my friends met a Finnish woman (once married to a middle easterner) online and they chatted for few months. When he asked her to meet, she is giving him some reasons which are not true, for example: she is telling that she has meeting on Saturday (on which he asked her to meet) and Sunday sometimes. By the way, she told my friend that she works as a bank clerk. I told my friend that online dating is a messy place. Women get messages from hundreds of guys and many women just fool around. I wonder why she is lying to him like a stupid because I consider Finns to be very honest people. I told my friend she is not interested in him. What do you say?

[Beep_Boop]

That's how I (and pretty much most people) use online dating. You keep people hooked and you play them around until something better comes along. For example, on Tinder, you start getting too many matches to be able to talk to all of them. So you give the interesting/hot ones more attention and you ignore (or you play) the rest.

These are just some small facts about life. Also, your friend is a fool. Tell him to skip that woman and move to the next one on his match list.

Oh yeah, and Finnish people aren't any more or less honest than other people in the world. Some people are honest, some people aren't. Some people are honest only some of the time, and some people lie only some of the time. It doesn't matter what your nationality is.

[caster]

Hi all

One of my friends met a Finnish woman (once married to a middle easterner) online and they chatted for few months. When he asked her to meet, she is giving him some reasons which are not true, for example: she is telling that she has meeting on Saturday (on which he asked her to meet) and Sunday sometimes. By the way, she told my friend that she works as a bank clerk. I told my friend that online dating is a messy place. Women get messages from hundreds of guys and many women just fool around. I wonder why she is lying to him like a stupid because I consider Finns to be very honest people. I told my friend she is not interested in him. What do you say?

If someone does not share a part of a story, does not make him/her liar - the stuff that one keeps is called private - expecting truth virtually is idiotic Women get messages or men, does not make them vulgar but the one who patronise someone for such stuff certainly behave like losers

In simple language - you screw or you get screwed - remember to move on - the truth - get a life

[ajdias]

One of my friends met a Finnish woman (once married to a middle easterner)

You know those romantic stories where the guy keeps on insisting and insisting, makes crazy demonstrations of appreciation until one day the damsel finally relinquishes and he turns up to be a superb gentleman and they get madly in love? In Finland you only see that when tv's air some latin-american telenovela... When that happens in real life it's usually called harassment. Now she may be playing him for attention, or she may be unable to tell him straight that she's not interested. I once went on a date with a gal who was constantly receiving sexual invites from a french dude. She had no clue that answering "no" was most likely interpreted as encouragement by the dude and did not want to block him, that would be rude.
Best case your friend is just so desperate that he is wasting his time. Worse case, she may the type that "appreciates" the kind of behavior that most women here would call harassment. Those crazes can often be found preying in places where foreigners hang...