Meeting the parents (help required!!)

Lefty · Post by **Lefty** » Thu Jun 16, 2005 3:45 pm

thats right acwan, it seems to be very high in the UK. You can go into a supermarket and say "anyone with an inhaler?" and almost everyone will pull one out of their bags or pockets. If it isn't their's its their childs or sister/brother,almost everyone carries one just incase. another common accessory is the "epipen" this is used for the treatment of allergic reactions to nuts, seed, etc.

I have another question eveyone! Is sexual promiscuity widespread in Finland?

I know its mainly a question of the individual but common trends may also encourage one to cheat. I'm wondering because, well I'm scared. I don't know the sexual culture over there.

and yet another question, lady's fashion. are miniskirts acceptable? and belly bearing tops? amoung the 17-24 yr olds?

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Hank W. · Post by **Hank W.** » Thu Jun 16, 2005 4:06 pm

Lefty wrote:I don't know the sexual culture over there.

We've got our equivalents of "essex girls".

are miniskirts acceptable? and belly bearing tops? amoung the 17-24 yr olds?

Depending if you are 17-24 stone and your belly bears from the top and hangs past your hemline then I'd say not necessarily. Though seen a few. usually on men though (not the miniskirt - but the belly-bearing t-shirt and the beer gut hanging way down... ) Of course then this also requires a 17-24 C weather, or otherwise you'll find yourself with a summer flu. But, heck, yeah

BTW do pay attention of the dressing up fashion code & make-up styles though (or actually the lack of them). Otherwise you'll end up complaining here you went to a disco and everyone was asking you "how much"... see now whatever is "normal" in some other places makes one look like a "tart" in Finland. Finnish women spend hours in front of the mirror making up so they look not wearing any make-up... so no 1980's glitter

Amiel · Post by **Amiel** » Thu Jun 16, 2005 4:08 pm

I got to wear my miniskirt for the first time yesterday! It's really warm - 21C

But the weather's so unpredictable.

RA · Post by RA » Thu Jun 16, 2005 4:31 pm

Amiel wrote:I got to wear my miniskirt for the first time yesterday! It's really warm - 21C But the weather's so unpredictable.

The day before yesterday we had 27 degrees, yesterday 13, today 17! But no miniskirts for me... I'm the size of a hippo at the mo

. Plus an article in the paper said miniskirts are out now. It's frilly skirts to just below the knee

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Lefty, don't worry.... come as you are, you'll be just fine. As long as in the winter, you wear lots and lots of warm clothes and forget about the UK club scene dressing.

haahatus · Post by **haahatus** » Thu Jun 16, 2005 8:20 pm

acwan wrote:Dirty homes bug hygiene scientists

People 'misled' by theory of protection through exposure to germs

This has to be simple. Native people died of the flew a few hundred centuries ago because they were not exposed to the flew. Who says dirt is good and showering is bad? Taking small children to the country can't hurt either.

Lefty · Post by **Lefty** » Fri Jun 17, 2005 6:51 pm

Great! miniskirts are allowed, at least my wardrobe doesn't have to suffer, and I see the frilly skirts are in fashion too, great!

[/b]Hank wrote:

BTW do pay attention of the dressing up fashion code & make-up styles though (or actually the lack of them). Otherwise you'll end up complaining here you went to a disco and everyone was asking you "how much"... see now whatever is "normal" in some other places makes one look like a "tart" in Finland. Finnish women spend hours in front of the mirror making up so they look not wearing any make-up... so no 1980's glitter

ah well, so much for the make up kits. Women in Englans spend loads on make-up, at least that will cut off about 30 minutes from my getting dressed time, my boyfriend will love that.

Is it just my boyfriend or are all you men like this? my boyfriend refuses to come anywhere near me if I am wearing lipgloss, he says its disgusting and reminds him of cooking oil and says "if i wanted to kiss an oily chicken I would" *gasp*

Papu · Post by **Papu** » Mon Jun 20, 2005 12:12 pm

Hi lefty,

my best advice for when meeting the parents is: try not to get offended by what they say/do.
If your bf loves you, and they see this, then they will like you as well.

Lefty · Post by **Lefty** » Tue Jun 21, 2005 2:38 pm

thank you, thank you everyone.

Now lets think about leisure!! bearing in mind that I am 20 and my boyfriend is 27, what the hell are we going to do for fun? I hear the drinking limit is 21, so clubbing will be limited

, do you have any theme parks? nature reserves? theatre? ballet performances? plays? or am I going to spend my time being dragged to rock concerts (my boyfriend is a muscian) and eating?

Hank W. · Post by **Hank W.** » Tue Jun 21, 2005 2:48 pm

Lefty wrote:I hear the drinking limit is 21

No, we have prohibition.

You watched too many American movies on tv.

Q: Why is there 17 blondies in front of the pub?
A: You have to be 18 to get in.

(and you can buy anything from the Alko as well after 20)

Then again clubs impose their own varied restrictions, that usually are anti-teen-male oriented, girls usually can wiggle into a 22 or 24 age limit place easier than guys.

aide · Post by **aide** » Tue Jun 21, 2005 2:51 pm

The drinking limit is 18, so getting sloshed in Finland is not a problem

There are lots of nature reserves (especially in the north and the east of the country), amusement parks (Linnanmäki, Tykkimäki, Särkänniemi etc, don't go to Santapark, it's evil). All decent sized towns have cinemas, and cities also have theatres with plays and musicals. Ballet and opera you can find mostly in Helsinki. Of course everything depends on where you're going.

But if your boyfriend is a musician, then yeah, most likely you will be dragged to rock concerts.

Lefty · Post by **Lefty** » Tue Jun 21, 2005 7:02 pm

Hank wrote

No, we have prohibition.

You watched too many American movies on tv.

you are right Hank, maybe I do, but I also have a boyfriend who seems to think that feeding me with lies about Finland is funny. he and his friends probably have a big laugh at it and I'm getting fed up of it!

The other day he said he would teach me essential phrases that I would need when I'm over there. the first one he told me was supposed to mean (well he told me it would mean) "where can I find the biscuits?" but after a while of him and his friends laughing at me, I began to think it was more then just the way I was pronouncing it, then he probably felt sorry for me and told me it meant "where can I find the prostitutes"

I dont allow him to teach me anything anymore and now he is sulking, but can you blame me??? and by the way, what does "Pikku Herre" mean, I know the spelling is probably wrong but thats how it sounds, its supposed to be something you say in the bar?

kweckduck · Post by **kweckduck** » Wed Jun 22, 2005 11:56 am

Hi there,

First time poster here! Wahey!
Anywhoo ...

What I think made a pretty good impression on my girlfriends parents was me saying "Mun kulta on toyddellinen" (Mind the spelling and letter-use, have never written it and dont have the right keyboard). But it means something along the lines of "My honey is perfect"

If you already know finnish then my efforts to impress my future parents in law might not seem like much. But I get the impression they appreciate it a lot that Im trying to speak finnish. Especially since they dont know any english. Not enough to communicate with me anyway.

Hank W. · Post by **Hank W.** » Wed Jun 22, 2005 12:38 pm

Lefty wrote: I also have a boyfriend who seems to think that feeding me with lies about Finland is funny

I mean - it is funny. Google and wikipedia are your friends - otherwise we just love to ask girls out... "want to come to my igloo and stroke my penguin?"

Lefty · Post by **Lefty** » Sat Jul 02, 2005 12:59 am

Hank wrote

want to come to my igloo and stroke my penguin?

it seems that being male, living in Finland and being crude go hand in hand. My boyfriend turns almost everything I say into some sexual context or another, its like a gift, and he is very good at it. Its funny sometimes because I thought Finns are supposed to be shy? but at other times I wonder if he does it so well with me, does he do it with other girls?

kweckduck wrote

...me saying "Mun kulta on toyddellinen"....it means something along the lines of "My honey is perfect" ...

really? can I steal that line from you? I do think my boyfriend is the best so its not just something I'll say just to make conversation

, his parents do speak English but I'm sure they will appriciate it if I tried to speak Finnish, you are right, I will do that.

DAL · Post by **DAL** » Sat Jul 02, 2005 1:05 am

Hank wrote: want to come to my igloo and stroke my penguin?

Can I steal that one?

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