Help please

espooman · Post by **espooman** » Fri Dec 14, 2007 1:39 pm

my wife is pregnant , she was asking divorce , so i don t know what
is my right as father , she said that she will send me back to my country
is that right ?
I need advice for my situation please , so anyone was in same situation
please give me advice thank you .

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Hank W. · Post by **Hank W.** » Fri Dec 14, 2007 3:35 pm

Zacharias, is that you?

mCowboy · Post by **mCowboy** » Fri Dec 14, 2007 3:47 pm

"älä ota kesäulkkista" we need a poster for that...

espooman · Post by **espooman** » Tue Dec 18, 2007 2:20 pm

hi
who is zacharias ?
i m asking question so can anyone give me answer please ?

Thank you .

aguinness · Post by **aguinness** » Tue Dec 18, 2007 2:58 pm

This is Zac bb/viewtopic.php?t=25335&highlight=urgent

espooman · Post by **espooman** » Tue Dec 18, 2007 4:22 pm

my wife is pregnant , she was asking divorce , so i don t know what
is my right as father , she said that she will send me back to my country
is that right ?
I need advice for my situation please , so anyone was in same situation
please give me advice thank you .

Hank W. · Post by **Hank W.** » Wed Dec 19, 2007 8:09 pm

Zac is/was in the exactly same situation, read the link above through - theres a few semi-intelligent posts there in between.

If you asked me, your wife should be sent to your home country and allowed back only after the child is 18.

espooman · Post by **espooman** » Thu Dec 20, 2007 2:12 pm

as i understand , she has right to send me back to my country
even i m the father ?
then what is my right as father ?
i m so worry about my situation , to be 18 years far from your child
how ? child will never emember who you are ?

ronrubies · Post by **ronrubies** » Thu Dec 27, 2007 11:38 pm

Sorry about your situation. Unfortunately it is all too common. I suggest you call the men's support organization miessakit. They probably will be able to give you good guidance. http://www.miessakit.fi/fi/in_english
Good luck. You will need it.

Idefix · Post by **Idefix** » Fri Dec 28, 2007 2:18 am

If you are married you should have some rights, and if you can, refuse to divorce her! But if you agree to a divorce, and you have not been in the country long enough etc, you might be in a bad situation, I think...

Matula · Post by **Matula** » Fri Dec 28, 2007 1:34 pm

Idefix wrote:If you are married you should have some rights, and if you can, refuse to divorce her! But if you agree to a divorce, and you have not been in the country long enough etc, you might be in a bad situation, I think...

You can't "refuse" a divorce. This isn't a Catholic country.

Idefix · Post by **Idefix** » Fri Dec 28, 2007 3:02 pm

Matula wrote:
Idefix wrote:If you are married you should have some rights, and if you can, refuse to divorce her! But if you agree to a divorce, and you have not been in the country long enough etc, you might be in a bad situation, I think...
You can't "refuse" a divorce. This isn't a Catholic country.

Can't you get it delayed by not just agreeing to divorce, maybe having to get lawers etc involved?? If you need to buy time I would think it might be an option.

in Sweden this applies: "För par som har barn under 16 år krävs sex månaders betänketid innan skilsmässa beviljas. Om bara den ena parten vill skiljas gäller också betänketid. " (for couples having kids under 16 years old there is a 6 month delay before divorce can be granted. If only one of the persons want a divorce there is also a delay before divorce can be granted)

Hank W. · Post by **Hank W.** » Fri Dec 28, 2007 3:23 pm

Well this isn't Sweden.

In Finland there is either 2 years of living separated and asking for a divorce and its immediate. Otherwise there is 6 months "thinking time". A divorce is automatically granted when one party asks for it (the other party has to be notified). The only stalling is the notification, but that gets done by the bailiffs.

Idefix · Post by **Idefix** » Fri Dec 28, 2007 3:28 pm

Hank W. wrote:Well this isn't Sweden.

In Finland there is either 2 years of living separated and asking for a divorce and its immediate. Otherwise there is 6 months "thinking time". A divorce is automatically granted when one party asks for it (the other party has to be notified). The only stalling is the notification, but that gets done by the bailiffs.

I did find this:

"Makarna har rätt till äktenskapsskillnad efter en betänketid på sex månader "

" Om ett ärende som gäller äktenskapsskillnad har anhängiggjorts vid tingsrätten genom makarnas gemensamma ansökan, börjar betänketiden på sex månader löpa när den gemensamma ansökan inlämnas eller anländer till tingsrätten. Om ansökan gjorts endast av den ena maken, börjar betänketiden löpa när ansökan delgetts den andra maken. Tingsrätten sköter delgivningen av ansökan."

http://www.om.fi/18150.htm

"28 § (16.4.1987/411)

Har ansökan gjorts av den ena maken ensam, skall domstolen bereda den andra tillfälle att bli hörd."

"29 § (16.4.1987/411)
Kan ärendet inte avgöras genast på grund av att domstolen kan döma till äktenskapsskillnad mellan makarna först efter betänketid, skall domstolen skjuta upp behandlingen av ärendet till den del det gäller äktenskapsskillnaden. Domstolen skall samtidigt meddela hur ärendet skall kunna upptas till fortsatt behandling efter betänketiden."

http://www.finlex.fi/sv/laki/ajantasa/1929/19290234

Hank W. · Post by **Hank W.** » Fri Dec 28, 2007 3:42 pm

Yes, the word is genast.. So if they do not want the 6 months "waiting period" but immediate divorce.

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