Urgent Advice

[African_Dragon]

i have a question for you guys and girls, I am a foreigner and i do not know my rights in finland , i am divorced man from finnish woman and we have a child togather , she receive money from the government kella for her and for the child because our daugter is living with her but we do have joint custody i am working and studying at the same time , i do see my daugter regularly every week as per contract made by social services and agreed by both of us the the parens , so now my ex wife wanted me to have my daugter for more than one day a week as i heard from her friends that she wants to work in black market to get money ....so i dont know what to do now ...i would love to have my daugter and look after him but if i do that means i stop working and what can i eat? how to pay my rent? and bills? any suggestion and advice from you guys will be so apreciated

[ajdias]

i do see my daugter regularly every week as per contract made by social services and agreed by both of us the the parens ,

If the contract is valid she can not change it by herself unless you agree to. Technically speaking she can ask a court to review the contract/get a new one but, given the circumstances, that is unlikely to happen.

[rinso]

Three options:
1- refuse to take care of your child for longer periods than is agreed.
(not very nice, but practical)
2- accept unconditionally.
(as you said; financial barriers)
3- negotiate a new deal in which you not only spent more time with your child, but also get an equal share of the child support money.
(the best option, but probably not what your ex had in mind)

[African_Dragon]

i am happy to look after my daughter more than one day , which is 2 days a week , but i am wondering if there is another way i can do for example to put a child in nursery ? am i able to get money from kella to pay the nursery while i am at work , as i do need to work my hours otherwise i be in the street? if i am short of hours of work because of looking after my daughter for 2 days week ,
can kella help me to pay my bills?
also i do want to ask you something about medicine , eveytime my wife contacts me to give her money for the medicine when our daughter is sick , is it true that kella can pay for the medicine for the child or not? social services have assessed my wages and they know i cant pay money to my ex wife because i dont earn enough , what i earn is only just enough to survive , so they informed me that i dont need to pay for child suppport as i dont earn enough .
ii am worried if i reprot my ex wife is working under table they will stop her benefit , and our daughter will be in danger ...
any advice on this issue and wat can you advice me to do the best?
thanks for reading and i aprecuate all your ideas !

[African_Dragon]

Regarding the medicine , my ex wife always tellme that kella does not pay the bills and she asks me to pay but sometime i do make it hard for my self not to eat dinners so i can pay for that medicine which means i sacrifice and stay short of food to give her money for medicine ...so please tellme now if that true or not?
i know that she is addcited to cigarettes so i think myabe she buy cigarettes instead of medicne and she lied to me to say she buy medicine .

[rinso]

Kela pays for most of the medical costs. Things that are not paid for are considered normal expenses. The amount of child support includes these kind of costs.
If there are exceptional circumstances your wife could ask for additional money from Kela. (she has to convince them tho)

I think your wife is misusing your concern for your child to get extra money from you, she is not entitled to.