Is not it strange?

[kristiinafin]

the most rediculous was today in the morning to get sms : "Good morning sweety".
no words.
and yesterday to tell me: i know you are with me not because of money.
Hallo!!!! of course im not, its not even the subject! if i wanted to be because of money with someone, that would be some russian man who buys stuff not even looking at the price, D&G and Gucci-Shmucci.
but im not like that and i thought it was LOVE.
but doesnt love mean support as well?
especially now, especially to the girl who is alone and who keeps supporting her sick mother and little brother.
i dont understand.
how come...

[Vallu]

when he will be old and bold and sick, i will see who is going to take care for him.

GREAT! This is the way you have to talk!

[kristiinafin]

Vallu, I really dont want to talk that way because i really cared for him.
But now i feel inside of me i have no fire anymore, i feel hate, i feel he is totally wrong person, cause even friend cannot do that way like he did.

[Hank W.]

"cant take your stuff as i never carry even my sisters stuff in car cause im afraid"...

Guy's got a worm in his head

if i wanted to be because of money with someone, that would be some russian man who buys stuff not even looking at the price, D&G and Gucci-Shmucci.

...from kadaka turg? I could afford that too

[kristiinafin]

well at least there will be one good positive thing about this: in future noone can come and tell me " this was ME who helped you, thats why you are living so good now".
alone as usually.
needed to be strong, but want to be gentle and want to get care, be a woman who is not like man but a woman who is making man´s life better and nicer.
but the reality makes me be different.
and after that discussions like "women are feminists or powerful or want to rule" come.
of course, if men cant be men and cant take responsibilities.

[kristiinafin]

"cant take your stuff as i never carry even my sisters stuff in car cause im afraid"...

Guy's got a worm in his head

if i wanted to be because of money with someone, that would be some russian man who buys stuff not even looking at the price, D&G and Gucci-Shmucci.

...from kadaka turg? I could afford that too

no Hank, from Moscow or Milano shops.

[Vallu]

Vallu, I really dont want to talk that way because i really cared for him.
But now i feel inside of me i have no fire anymore, i feel hate, i feel he is totally wrong person, cause even friend cannot do that way like he did.

You are right and I apologize if I seemed hilarious or undelicate....sorry!
Hold on: I admire you and hope there are many women like you and few men like your ex boyfriend.

[antarctica_moon]

It's difficult, but try to forget him. It's better to know now what he's like then when you really need him.

I agree with Zoltar - it might be best to head back home, where people care about you and can console you. You're young, you'll get over this. You're attractive, you'll get another, better guy.

[mardy]

Kristiina, I don't know you or him, yet I'd like to raise a voice against the chorus, just to say that we (the forum-ers) cannot really judge him basing all on your post.
You wrote your version of the story, and I trust you that it is real. But we don't know anything about the motivations that lead him to behave so harshly. If you know were his friend for 5 years, he cannot be such a monster; something must have changed... Well, people change, too, but they cannot change from white to black in such a short time.
Maybe he is very disappointed that your love story ended, this was the first thing that I thought when reading your post. Or he realized you are not the right woman from him, yet he loves you, and this causes him a this feeling of "love & hate" towards you.

Well, this post was not meant for you; I'm sure you have your reasons. It was meant for asking people not to criticize whom they don't know.

The same facts can be seen under totally different lights, and the only real light is inside men's heart.

Wow, I'm ashamed of myself, better to return to my real self.

[Hank W.]

it might be best to head back home

Bollocks - she's said she's coming here to study at HELIA for her career, not become a desperate housewife.

[Hank W.]

I'm sure you have your reasons. It was meant for asking people not to criticize whom they don't know.

Well you smell like a goat and have a hairy pimple on your behind and your nosehairs make shuffling sounds when you snore at night

[antarctica_moon]

it might be best to head back home

Bollocks - she's said she's coming here to study at HELIA for her career, not become a desperate housewife.

oops - didn't catch that. Then yes, by all means stay and study. There are plenty of guys in Finland that would be a vast improvement over your ex - perhaps Hank W and you could get together and talk about things over coffee?

[Hank W.]

Coffee and... psycopathy?

[mardy]

I'm sure you have your reasons. It was meant for asking people not to criticize whom they don't know.

Well you smell like a goat and have a hairy pimple on your behind and your nosehairs make shuffling sounds when you snore at night

In Italy we have a say which sounds like "Thinking bad things about other people is a sin, but it's often a correct guess".

[Hank W.]

I think the worst of people - and things. Always expecting and preparing for a disaster. Therefore I get only pleasant surprises