I have been reading this forum for quiet a while and I would like to share my experience that is basically just starting but well i can not ignore that it is quiet different from others . But i want to share this with all these people suffering from the unjust system: The right of a descent life in peace for all.
Anyhow I am 24 male from Lebanon, the war started in my country last 12th of July, i come from the Christian side of Beirut that was not damaged like the south but still I have seen it all , the destruction and the hate .
They call Beirut the sin city of the Arab world, but it is a beautiful city but sadly located in a region full of hate and anger.
I just graduated in hotel mgt. and was working in a small family run hotel business, and there during the war, there was this journalist covering the news and we met, there was lots of Finns being evacuated from our hotel at that time and we had to live me and her the real war time, the bombs, the sad stressful moments. Believe me, it was not easy for me to see a whole country that was about to BOOM again and was counting on a summer season to boost its economy again being destroyed, all my hopes where gone. The whole nation was being destroyed by the anger of both stupid parties, the Hezbollah stupid terrorists and the idiot Israelis.
Anyhow am happy to be far from there now , i will never go back whatever happens to Lebanon , i can no more handle these wars each 10 years or so. I am 24 and have lived already 2 wars.
So Marika lived me with the hard moments and we talked about everything we felt this emotional need to be together, I am sure it was not love yet. But well there was something going on there. We spent all the 7 days of her stay together, she was covering the news and i was helping to translate and do some extra work with other journalists until we came with the decision that I should move with her to Finland and that's how things started.
We took a cab during the heavy bombing with other Finns toward the Syrian borders and there I stayed at the place of a Finnish friend that we met and the next day i got my papers and we went to the embassy of Finland in Syria and filled the visa application since am a Lebanese passport holder. Then Marika left home and i had to go thru living in Syria for at least 4 to 5 weeks where we were in contact all the time via MSN chat and daily phone calls. Marika was my hope, my love, i wasn't quiet happy before the war in Lebanon, since i was lonely and came out of a relation that lasted before for 8 years. I can say the drama we went thru me and Marika during those 7 days, I never seen like it. So sad Lebanon has to suffer from the regional games of others, sad that us the Lebanese youth generation has to pay the price and go thru wars again and again.
So the 5 weeks went on like hell , I felt like !"#¤% , I hated Syria , i advice no one to live or even think to go there , it is a pure dictatorship and it's a country where there is no hope of change , I was paranoid , scared all the time there , i had only Marika as hope , then it was the real love pumping , the love of a new life with a girl that is so sweet and the girl that i love , I truly love and make a life with . Build a future, make kids and grow old together
So i arrived by first of September to Helsinki airport , and there my dream started , this peaceful place called Helsinki , where people are cold and where there is a huge culture shock for me but they are the sweetest and most peaceful people , Marika is my everything now ... and Finland is my new home. Simply as that!!!
I had post trauma stress, I was waking during the nights and not sleeping scared from Israeli jets and bombs, I feel home sick always now.
We got engaged after 7 days, each day feels like a year. We are soul mates, it s just like we are born to be together. I know in many comments there was remarks about true love but well this is a true love, Lebanon is not a bad place to be in, culture is different but i want to be here, to live in peace with the love of my life.
14 days exactly passed and we are now engaged, I wait her next to the door like a puppy so that when she gets back home I jump and kiss her, she is everything now.
The scary part is since I am on a tourist visa, i will not be able to work, and what kind of husband i shall be for sitting doing the housewife, am a hard working student that just got his degree and needs to continue my hard work to build a family, so we looked our options and the only solution for me will be getting married it seems. so we decide even that is so fast that we getting married after just 2 month but we have no choice , i don’t want her to feed me and support me , I want to build a descent life , work hard and come home and be with her .
So the marriage will be next month, but we are so scared from the immigration and from them sending me back to do papers in lebanon, where we have no Finnish embassy and where it is crazy to go back there due to the war and specially it will be hell for me, i don’t want to step in the middle east again. It is a living hell.
So does anybody have any ideas what will happen from their experience. can anybody advice , well after we get married , i will apply with M for my PR , i don’t care what is the status they give , i just want to be here with her . So i am really worried and scared, I plan to be like Finns a real honest guy, but I have no clue how things will go and if our story will convince them and what proof shall we provide. I ran away from a war not to live another one, a stupid war of papers and interviews that make me feel like low and treated like !"#¤%. Please help and advice!!!
Heipa
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