What kind of right a natural father has?

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What kind of right a natural father has?

Post by Kinku » Mon Oct 19, 2009 1:41 am

I am new here. So I think I could just ask "any question" :wink:

I notice there are so many fathers are not exactly living with their children. Or change a word, many mothers are not living with children's natural father. (Don't start to ask me where I live or what company I am working for so to get such nice accompany. I just happened to notice and rather start to be curious about it.) I wonder what kind of right a baby's natural father has, in case he is not married with baby's mother when baby is born.

if I understood right, no matter whether there is a blood-tie between the baby and the father, as long as the baby is born in a marriage, the husband of mother would be legal father, right? Then what happened with the natural father in such case?

what would happen if a guy just does not know he has a baby somewhere?

what would happen if legal father and natural father both want the baby? :?

hih, is there anyone help me out of here? :D



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Re: What kind of right a natural father has?

Post by Karhunkoski » Mon Oct 19, 2009 7:19 am

Kinku wrote: what would happen if a guy just does not know he has a baby somewhere?

Depends if you tell him ;)
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Re: What kind of right a natural father has?

Post by rinso » Mon Oct 19, 2009 7:44 am

if I understood right, no matter whether there is a blood-tie between the baby and the father, as long as the baby is born in a marriage, the husband of mother would be legal father, right? Then what happened with the natural father in such case?
indeed.
The biological father would be out of the picture until he is recognized as such.
And that would require an action of the mother (and an agreement of the legal father). So as long as the mother does nothing you have no rights.
Off course you can always try legal action against the mother to force her.

The child however has the right to know her biological father when it becomes an adult. But it is not obliged to exercise that right.

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Re: What kind of right a natural father has?

Post by Kinku » Mon Oct 19, 2009 9:51 am

rinso wrote:
Off course you can always try legal action against the mother to force her.
"legal action"? what kind of legal action? does it need any evidence or anything witness or such?

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Re: What kind of right a natural father has?

Post by Pursuivant » Mon Oct 19, 2009 10:21 am

DNA test is evident enough, but you need to sue to get it.

Usually though the county is very keen on finding the father as the father has the "right" to pay child support so if theres no father recorded the county ends up paying.
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Re: What kind of right a natural father has?

Post by Kinku » Mon Oct 19, 2009 10:47 am

:D
So, if there is one guy outside of a marriage insists to test the chance of being nature father of a baby, then the couple are surely put to test? So a woman has no right to hide an affair from her husband then! :beer_yum:

how much does the DNA test cost? would it be free from social service?

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Re: What kind of right a natural father has?

Post by rinso » Mon Oct 19, 2009 11:07 am

Realize what your asking for.
- DNA test positive > you become the father > husband leaves > you get bill for child support > maybe you get visiting rights > she will still shag someone else.

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Re: What kind of right a natural father has?

Post by Kinku » Mon Oct 19, 2009 11:24 am

well, but, then you get a whole baby!

Plus, someone is taking care of it for most of the time. Baby is growing by him/herself. The child support is nothing compare to all those expenses.

only one question left: if natural father pays, will he definitely gets right of baby? in what case a mother could refuse it?

thank you so much!

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Re: What kind of right a natural father has?

Post by Pursuivant » Mon Oct 19, 2009 11:31 am

rinso wrote:you get bill for child support
Which then again can be a legal wrangle in itself
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Re: What kind of right a natural father has?

Post by Kinku » Mon Oct 19, 2009 12:44 pm

Don't you see that I want the baby?! I can pay and I want to pay the child support. I want to spend time with the coming child. I can do all I can for it.

I am not one of those bad guys who just f*ck and leave.

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Re: What kind of right a natural father has?

Post by rinso » Mon Oct 19, 2009 2:22 pm

I am not one of those bad guys who just f*ck and leave.
In that case, confront the mother and ask her to leave her husband and marry you.
(if you're a real man, do it with her husband present)

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Re: What kind of right a natural father has?

Post by EP » Mon Oct 19, 2009 2:33 pm

I am not one of those bad guys who just f*ck and leave.
And you are 17 weeks pregnant? You will make history.

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Re: What kind of right a natural father has?

Post by Kinku » Mon Oct 19, 2009 2:57 pm

EP!

LOL

I said, "I am NOT" :P

thanks for all your answer!

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Re: What kind of right a natural father has?

Post by ajdias » Mon Oct 19, 2009 4:54 pm

If my Finnish skills do not fail me what you guys are saying is höpö höpö:
  • Entinen avovaimoni, joka oli raskaana muutti pois ja meni naimisiin, minulla ei kuulemma ole mitään oikeuksia lapseen, vaikka olen biologinen isä

    Jos raskaana oleva nainen menee naimisiin toisen miehen kanssa ennen lapsen syntymää, on hänen aviomiehensä lapsen isä. "Biologinen" isä ei voi saada isyyttään vahvistetuksi, elleivät aviomies ja lapsen äiti hyväksy isyyden tunnustamista, jolloin aviomiehen isyys kumoutuu. Aviomies tai lapsen äiti voi nostaa isyyden kumoamiskanteen pääsääntöisesti kahden vuoden kuluessa lapsen syntymästä. (Tunnustetun isyyden kumoamista koskevan kanteen voi nostaa isyytensä tunnustanut mies taikka äiti kahden vuoden kuluessa siitä, kun isyys on tunnustamisella vahvistettu.) Lapsella itsellään ei ole mitään aikarajaa kumoamiskanteen nostamiseen.

    Source:HEl.fi > Perheoikeudelliset asiat
" If a pregnant woman marries another man before the birth of the child, is her husband, father of the child. 'Biological' father to obtain paternity can not be confirmed unless the husband and the child's mother approved the recognition of paternity, when the husband's paternity is void." (gTranslate, link)

Basically, according to the social services of Helsinki you must get both the wife and the husband (/legal partner ?) to agree before you're untitled to claim paternity.

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Re: What kind of right a natural father has?

Post by Kinku » Mon Oct 19, 2009 11:56 pm

what does " höpö höpö" mean? some gossip or rumors? So you mean it has been challenged by public?

I have to claim again that I am not "bad guy", even not a man. I think I have been quite clear in initial post that i am just curious about such case. :P


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